Confidence, Definitions
Confidence: "I am looking forward to learning how to do this."
Over-Confidence: "I will ace this with minimal preparation."
Arrogance: "I don't need to learn this, I already get this and more, it's for lower people."
Low Self-Esteem : "I can't do this, and everyone who can is smarter than me."
Insecurity: "I can't do this, and everyone who can thinks they're better than me."
Over-Confidence: "I will ace this with minimal preparation."
Arrogance: "I don't need to learn this, I already get this and more, it's for lower people."
Low Self-Esteem : "I can't do this, and everyone who can is smarter than me."
Insecurity: "I can't do this, and everyone who can thinks they're better than me."
Small Moves, Peace Of Mind
That overwhelmed feeling, too many things to do, not enough time in the day, can't get it all done, seems to be shared by many. We may be overstimulated, or place too many demands on our own time, between the things we want to do, and the things we feel like we have to do. Of course there have been thousands of discussions about "shoulds", and choices, and modern society being over run with electronic communication. But there may be some shortcuts through the stress, back to "you".
One of the ways that time is organized in academic and professional settings is the simple schedule. Just like in school or work, put up a blackboard or whiteboard somewhere in plain sight. Then, simply write the things down that you need and want to get done that day, as if you were writing it for someone else; like you are the teacher, professor, or boss. Write the start time and the end time next to the task, just like a classroom or business day schedule. Then, walk away. Now you can be the student or the employee, and just go by that schedule that the "teacher" or the "boss" wrote on the board. If you finish a task early, you can take a break until the time for that task has ended. If you do not finish by the time the next task starts, just shelve the task until after the schedule is finished, or resume the next day. If you find you did not schedule enough time for a task that must be completed, you can always adjust the schedule the next day. Just like in class, or working for someone else.
Your black or whiteboard doesn't need to be a permanent fixture, you don't need to figure out how to integrate it into your whole life. Just trying it may help to reset your stress levels, and give you a little more feeling of solid ground under your feet. Have fun with it.
Slán agus beannacht leat !
copyright Marianne Black 2011
One of the ways that time is organized in academic and professional settings is the simple schedule. Just like in school or work, put up a blackboard or whiteboard somewhere in plain sight. Then, simply write the things down that you need and want to get done that day, as if you were writing it for someone else; like you are the teacher, professor, or boss. Write the start time and the end time next to the task, just like a classroom or business day schedule. Then, walk away. Now you can be the student or the employee, and just go by that schedule that the "teacher" or the "boss" wrote on the board. If you finish a task early, you can take a break until the time for that task has ended. If you do not finish by the time the next task starts, just shelve the task until after the schedule is finished, or resume the next day. If you find you did not schedule enough time for a task that must be completed, you can always adjust the schedule the next day. Just like in class, or working for someone else.
Your black or whiteboard doesn't need to be a permanent fixture, you don't need to figure out how to integrate it into your whole life. Just trying it may help to reset your stress levels, and give you a little more feeling of solid ground under your feet. Have fun with it.
Slán agus beannacht leat !
copyright Marianne Black 2011
Another Heads Up
American Mothers Political Party Our organization supports Mothers...bottom line. Until we have gender equality in all facets of life, liberty and the pursuit of happiness then we can talk about fathers.48 minutes ago ·
Marianne Black wow okay thanks for your honesty. We can talk about whatever we want to talk about, since this is America; I have suffered abuse, was raped, was nearly murdered, and the 'system' had no care for me or for my son. I have been sexually harassed too many times to count. But believing that it is a gender problem and not a Human Behavior problem is one of the reasons it does not get resolved. People who have prejudice in their hearts ARE the people who released my abuser; they are the same kind of person who released my cousin's wife after she beat her daughter and threatened to kill her father. The protection of human beings is what matters. Misogyny and misandry are the same, grouping people into one category, not seeing the big picture. That is exactly what they want, that way they can keep it all going. Abused men are just as screwed as abused women.
a few seconds ago ·
Healing Shame
http://www.psychsight.com/ar-shame.html
"So the work of healing your shame is as profound as are the potentials of your soul. It reaches down into the heart of your concept of yourself and of your belief in the possibilities of life, alone, and in the company of others."
"So the work of healing your shame is as profound as are the potentials of your soul. It reaches down into the heart of your concept of yourself and of your belief in the possibilities of life, alone, and in the company of others."
Gender Bulls**t (Or, get over yourself, your gender's not better than mine)
Nice look at the gender constructs that still exist in people's imaginations, even in 2011. Of course as we know by watching Star Trek, women will still wear beehive hairdos and mini skirts in the future, and men will still be in charge of the ship... as long as they're relatively handsome, that is.
http://everything2.com/title/Boys+are+better+than+girls%253A+Adolescent+gender+socialization+in+North+America
Interesting comments on this one as well.
http://everything2.com/title/Boys+are+better+than+girls%253A+Adolescent+gender+socialization+in+North+America
Interesting comments on this one as well.
Rainbow Bridge Card Deck
DESIRE
Without Desire, nothing is conceived. All that birth of new life, new possibilities, new hope begins with desire the for union, for experience, for pleasure, for knowledge. Desire is the engine of creation, and profound, authentic desire is profoundly connected to the life force. But desire can be sublimated, denied or perverted into lust or superficial acquisition, even hoarding where authentic desire has become mistrusted. What do you truly desire, deep in your soul? Real love, meaningful work, engaging creativity, beauty, travel, knowledge? This card encourages you to connect with that deep source, and like a rose opening to the sun, focus on your true desire and make it manifest in your life.
~copyright 2011 Lauren Raine
Without Desire, nothing is conceived. All that birth of new life, new possibilities, new hope begins with desire the for union, for experience, for pleasure, for knowledge. Desire is the engine of creation, and profound, authentic desire is profoundly connected to the life force. But desire can be sublimated, denied or perverted into lust or superficial acquisition, even hoarding where authentic desire has become mistrusted. What do you truly desire, deep in your soul? Real love, meaningful work, engaging creativity, beauty, travel, knowledge? This card encourages you to connect with that deep source, and like a rose opening to the sun, focus on your true desire and make it manifest in your life.
~copyright 2011 Lauren Raine
Cure For Stupid?
Heard recently that they have isolated what causes prejudice and dominant behavior in humans. The thing that causes confidence in a person to master a task, or initiate a new task or idea, is a gene that affects the amygdala, and it gets mutated in some, which turns dominating a task,for them, into dominating and controlling other people. So they see people as things to conquer, like mastering golf or doing a job. It's where sexism and racism come from, dictators to the sweet voiced control freak you eat breakfast with. They have found the mutation in all races tested so far, and in both genders. (Explains a lot...)
Adult Behavior
If you don't know what is so sacred about a union between two people, then you might want to wait until you're a little older to try being in a romantic relationship.
Rumi
When I am with you, we stay up all night.
When you're not here, I can't go to sleep.
Praise God for these two insomnias! When you're not here, I can't go to sleep.
And the difference between them.
Slaves
If one favors Blacks over Whites, even in the back of their minds, they will applaud and recognize the actions of Blacks and ignore, minimize, or dismiss the actions of Whites, regardless of the actual merit of the action. If one favors Whites over Hispanics, they will applaud and recognize the actions of Whites and ignore the actions of Hispanics.
If one favors women over men, they will listen to and give recognition to women, while denigrating the actions of men.
If one favors men over women, they will listen to and give credence to men, and dismiss the same actions of women.
When someone points out to them proof that their prejudice is not based in reality, they come up with rationales and nonsensical phrases in defense, like "the exception proves the rule", or "that's just the way it is".
Prejudice in all forms is not a passing personal folly, but a detriment to the human race. A school teacher who favors one race over another is sabotaging the futures of the students in his or her class. An employer who favors one gender over another is undermining the very lives of those he or she does not hire, as well as selling the business short. A student who seeks Spiritual guidance ignores beneficial guidance from those he or she dismisses, and blindly follows another who fits into their prejudice. A husband ignores his wife and gives his attention to his male friends; a wife ignores her husband to attend to her female friends. A member of a group of friends spreads negativity about someone who they feel threatened by so the others will not welcome the person. A female supervisor who favors males creates situations for male employees to shine, and undermines female employees so they appear less effective, paving the way for the males to be promoted, and blocking the way for the females. A rock band hires the musicians they like, not actually the best musicians, even undermining their own potential. A police officer believes the statement of the abuser over the victim, and the abuser goes free to do it again. A psychiatrist believes the father over the mother of a troubled child, or believes the parents over the child, or the child over the parents, and treats the patient according to the psychiatrist's prejudice, not according to the reality of the situation. A leader is elected because people like him or her, not according to experience or intelligence. A parent favors a sister over a brother, or a brother over a sister, causing both of them unpredictable emotional scars.
A high school faculty staff nurtures and tutors the students they favor, and ignores and even undermines the students they do not; the students they let "Fall through the cracks" will not have the opportunity they would have had if their needs were addressed like the needs of the others were; how many of these students would have gone into fields such as medicine, how many of them would have contributed to treating disease, finding cures, saving lives?
© 2010 Marianne Black Snuggs
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