Little Gidding

Ever wonder why everyone seems to think there  HAS TO BE  either a  Patriarchy or a Matriarchy? Can't anyone think outside t...

There are some people who will attribute elevated status and power to their having a physical illness or disability, as if it makes them s...

Strangers and acquaintances do not treat you with either respect or disrespect because of "who you really are". There's no ...

There is a key thing that chimpanzees and humans have in common. Once you can accept this and understand it, it's much easier to unders...

You will find peace when you let go of trying to prove your worth. You are worthy now, and worthy enough. When you keep trying to prove t...

Turn your emotional reactions into signals for yourself about others. That sting and heat from insults and put-downs are meant to stop yo...

Some common ways controllers/dominators try to manipulate and diminish others with shame signals : > Commenting on something the targ...

The desire to dominate others often begins in childhood, but it can come from a number of factors. A little boy who bullies other kids an...

I have seen that a lot of people don't seem to realize that there are people who are obsessed with power OVER other people, who want ...

How do control freaks stay in control? Shame is one of the more effective ways. A trigger button that often gets implanted in childhood i...

More on triggers. Everyone has "triggers". The more mature we are, the more we are able to accept that. Some have more, some ha...

It can feel totally unfair and not "right", but we come to a realization at some point that we need to balance the scales. On ...

When judgment, blame and shame is used against others as a weapon, it's really kind of silly. Show me any human being, any human at all...

Healing is the most important thing we can do for ourselves when we have been through or are dealing with crisis, trauma, prolonged stress,...

There is only one reason why many people (both men and women) will listen to men more than women, and show respect to men more than women, ...

How much should we believe what we feel? Should we take how we feel about others, and about our situations, as factual information? We al...

The most common behavior that both humans and chimpanzees use to display domination and status is "snubbing". That is, treatin...

Human beings have a tendency to confuse self-confidence and self-esteem with arrogance and entitlement. When we master a skill, or accompli...

The first test of Patriotism is respect for other citizens, and their opinions, and their freedom to express their opinions. If you want ...

A shortcut to seeing inside the mind of a person with narcissism traits~ have you ever stubbed your toe really badly, and your whole bein...