Little Gidding

There is a very big difference between "competition" and "oppression". ~ Oppressors will always say that what's h...

Attaching importance, danger, and anxiety: Making a big deal out of things is part and parcel to the human ego, so the bigger/more infl...

Traits of Borderline Pers. Disorder that seemsto be very, very common among adults in this current cultural era, (with or without BPD dia...

Some of the common (and very funny!) assumptions that people make about each other in many Western cultures, without actually finding out a...

Long story short: One of the main things that happens to a target of abuse is that the person is "taught" or conditioned to put ...

This is the weblog of a person I greatly admired, Mr. James E. Bennett. He was a brilliant musician, writer, philosopher, artist, "thi...

There are as many reasons for seeking understanding as there are human beings on the Earth. The most important of these are one's own.

It's the depth and quality of the soil that gives the trees a good place to grow. It's the sunlight, water, and nutrients in the...

Games People Play, vying for status and dominance ~ Why don't people like to talk about this stuff? (Because it's embarrassing to f...

Codependent and Narcissistic environments often find a person with seemingly free-floating negative feelings that don't appear to be at...

Signs of a mature and secure Human Being: ~Straightforward and honest ~Supportive of the other people in their life ~Compassionate towa...

Remember paper cup telephones? They only work if the line is tight, and both ends are being held. In a relationship with a Narcissist, it...

There is a certain Myth that all Controllers need others to believe in order to remain in control and maintain "power". How the...

Google the phrase "Men Lead Women Follow" and you will get a quarter of a BILLION hits. Which begs only one question: Why the...

People are only as mature as they can handle. They might not be grown-up enough to care about others, or know how to treat people, so the c...

Controllers in relationships with other people (parent/child, 'partner', 'friend', etc) are like the kind of children wi...

If I could go back in time to my teenage self, I would tell myself a few things: 1) Trust yourself more 2) Believe in yourself more 3...

"Topic dodging is a political control tactic that's used often in regular conversation. You say "Look at that tree, what ki...

In your community, work, and social circles, do you notice more people treating you better when you express enthusiasm and speak and beha...

Obstacles To Change One of the biggest obstacles to change can be our fear of humiliation, rejection, and slander. It's not just the ...