Little Gidding

Alright! Congratulations! Rhode Island!  If marriage is Religious, it should never have been a civil ceremony in the first place. And if i...

Human beings have a tendency to assume ignorance, naivete, and inexperience about others. Narcissists do this to an extreme, but most peo...

It is just as difficult for an "abuser" to have a genuine friend, or genuine support network, or get proper mental health care,...

Taking on an air of "authority" is common in controllers. They desire control, so they imagine themselves as an "authority...

We all reach adulthood in age and body whether we actually matured or not. Most of us bring many of our childhood assumptions and judgments...

Lord, thou knowest better than myself that I am growing older and will soon be old. Keep me from becoming too talkative, and especially fr...

Really sick of this culture of "tough" and "bad ass" and "I'll kick their ass", it's so freaking bori...

When some people keep criticizing you when you do certain things, it may be because they don't want you to do that thing, period. They...

Many people will think they KNOW YOU based on a short list of little things they think they noticed about you. Have you ever heard ...

Ever wonder why everyone seems to think there  HAS TO BE  either a  Patriarchy or a Matriarchy? Can't anyone think outside t...

There are some people who will attribute elevated status and power to their having a physical illness or disability, as if it makes them s...

Strangers and acquaintances do not treat you with either respect or disrespect because of "who you really are". There's no ...

There is a key thing that chimpanzees and humans have in common. Once you can accept this and understand it, it's much easier to unders...

You will find peace when you let go of trying to prove your worth. You are worthy now, and worthy enough. When you keep trying to prove t...

Turn your emotional reactions into signals for yourself about others. That sting and heat from insults and put-downs are meant to stop yo...

Some common ways controllers/dominators try to manipulate and diminish others with shame signals : > Commenting on something the targ...

The desire to dominate others often begins in childhood, but it can come from a number of factors. A little boy who bullies other kids an...

I have seen that a lot of people don't seem to realize that there are people who are obsessed with power OVER other people, who want ...

How do control freaks stay in control? Shame is one of the more effective ways. A trigger button that often gets implanted in childhood i...

More on triggers. Everyone has "triggers". The more mature we are, the more we are able to accept that. Some have more, some ha...