The man who is annoyed when someone else is expressing emotion is a man who lacks the ability or awareness to look into a mirror.
Conditioning tells us who to trust, who to respect, what kinds of people are capable of which tasks and who is worthy. It also provides the reasons why we should believe it. We can come up with rationale all day long about why we respect certain people and others not, but it is mostly smoke and mirrors. Reasons tailored to fit the conditioning. Because it deals with feeling, that's why it is so effective. We feel more comfortable with a female elementary teacher. So our mind comes up with reasons to justify it. We feel more comfortable with a male car mechanic, so we search for evidence to back this up. We also tell each other these reasons, and that feels comfortable too. We attack and manipulate anything that is different, hoping subconsciously it will make it go away so we can feel comfortable again. The male nurse gets picked on by coworkers, patients and doctors alike, even undermined. The female electrician gets ignored, sabotaged and condescended to by both coworkers and customers. And that behavior is rationalized as well, and backed up by others who are conditioned in the same way. Attempts by the person to stand up for themselves is also met with hostility. That is the essence of conditioning. We are trained by the people in the environment we grow up in from the time we are born until we die, and mostly by people who are unaware of their own conditioning, so it is not easy to see. If we want to break out of conditioned thinking, we must question the most hardwired assumptions, we must observe details of our behavior and challenge our OWN feelings, and continue to observe the process with each implanted belief. The next time you ask someone for advice or guidance, or hire someone to do a job, or feel annoyed by someone who is asking you a question or giving you information, stop, sit, step outside of yourself and observe your feelings and thoughts from above, get a bird's eye view.
“If men as individuals surrender to the call of their elementary instincts, avoiding pain and seeking satisfaction only for their own selves, the result for them all taken together must be a state of insecurity, of fear, and of promiscuous misery.”