STOP talking and writing about things that annoy ME, and that I'm not interested in...
If I don't like it, then I don't want you to be interested in it, study it, talk about it, or write about it. (Is that how the song goes?)

I dictate what you are interested in and what you do with your own time, not you.

Why do you take yourself so seriously, anyway? Only I am supposed to be taken seriously, by anyone, including you. Well, me, and people I agree with, and people I think are cool.

What do you think this is, the United States of America?
The 21st Century?
Why do you have it in your little head that you should be allowed to have your own thoughts, as if you're worthy of that somehow? Come ooooon! Give it up already! You're nothing! You're crazy! You're nutso, and melodramatic, and everyone agrees with me!
(So what about the people who say they respect you, what you talk about and write about, they're not real people who actually matter... they're not part of my crowd, so they can't be right.)


The belief that I am entitled to talk down, condescend, threaten, belittle, insult, and make demands and commands to another but they are not "allowed" to do the same is called "ridiculous entitlement mentality". It's usually taught by arrogant, incredibly immature dork(s) modeling the behavior. People who actually believe they're superior because they did not grow out of this stage in adolescence (a process of finding one's autonomy) will raise their children this way.

So their developmental delay becomes their unfortunate children's experience of what it means to be an adult human. Much like a child who has a drug dealer for a parent will come to think of drug dealing as part of the "normal" world that he or she expects to have as a part of life as an adult. The child who has a Sports star for a parent will also come to think of being a Sports star as just how the adult world is. They can't know that their parent's modeling is NOT "the world", because that's their whole experience. So if a son has a father who teaches him that males are innately "better" or "above" females, naturally, he is quite likely to adapt his father's mentality. Same with daughters, same with any other trait like ancestry, race, and religion. Anyone who actually thinks of the opposite sex as naturally "LESS", or other races, nationalities, or financial statuses as naturally "LESS", was 100% certainly exposed to one or more adults who modeled this entitlement, high and mighty mentality. So they think it's reality, just as much as the majority of humans used to believe that spontaneous infection was real. (Now only a really large number believe in it...)


For pity's sake what is this disgusting, nauseating obsession with trying to brainwash youth into believing that male and female humans are different species, and one superior to the other? Get over your monkey selves already!!!

Hostile Communities Vs. Safe Communities

The safer a region is, the less anxiety all individuals have about going about their day alone.
The more hostile and unsafe a region is, the more individuals will seek company in their activities.
So in a safe community, you will see single individuals of all sizes, appearances, and both sexes, going to places and participating in activities, holding all kinds of jobs, performing all kinds of creativity, learning and doing all kinds of tasks. 

In a hostile and unsafe community and region, you will see people paired and grouped, usually separated by race, sex, and background, even appearance, clothing, and age. Those who don't have someone with them when they are doing something are often seen as "weird" or "strange" in hostile communities, for example a woman alone at a movie, bar, or restaurant in such a community is often whispered about, as is a man who walks his dog in the park alone. Much like the child who eats alone in the school cafeteria is picked on if there are bullies in the school. If there were no bullies, no one would pick on the child at all, and no one would ostracize the child either. 

In hostile and unsafe communities, people often judge others negatively in sexist and racist ways.

In a safe community, jobs and activities rarely exclude members of a sex or race. In an unsafe community, it is the "norm" to exclude members of a sex or race in jobs, tasks, activities and groups.
Local high schools, public service departments, businesses, local churches, clubs, and local sports can be used as a barometer. Is there really diversity, or do people just pretend there's diversity, but actually group themselves and their children together by sex, race, financials and ancestry? How common is it for kids to feel left out? How high is the graduation rate? How much do adults separate youth based on gender? How high is the drug use, the crime, the domestic abuse, and the prostitution? How high is the overall success rate of the individuals in the community, not just certain members of certain groups? How much nepotism is there, and how much sex bias and race bias is there in employment and business hierarchy?


We look for chemical rewards from our brains and bodies; all of us do. Some of us are less aware of this, some are more aware. The human system is built this way just like most other creatures. We differ, however, in which chemical rewards we seek, according to our own unique experiences, our own past, and our own physiology. For example I love the chemical reward I get from seeing a good science fiction movie or reading a great book ("great" from my own POV, of course.) I love the chemical reward I get from being on the water, being around animals, from music, from creativity, and from positive interaction with other people, especially friendly discussion, teaming and cooperating to do a project, sharing points of view, shared fun activities, and humor. I can trace that all back to my early childhood; it's a combination of the way I was born (my own physiological brain and system) AND the interactions of my childhood that were positive.

I, however, personally, do NOT get a positive chemical reward from completion of accomplishments, or showing them, or talking about them. That's not a goal I have automatically because of a chemical reward like many people do. I'm not seeking a good feeling from completing a project, or getting to my goal, or telling people about things I've done, because it doesn't really give me that. I like DOING the thing on my way to the goal, and being in the journey and the project, but the end of it, and announcing it, does not compel me.

Also probably from childhood experiences; I do remember getting good grades and getting more negative attention for them than positive. The same thing with performances as a child in both music and dance. Winning contests and awards also got me more negative attention than positive. Often it got me very negative attention; ridicule, shame, bullying, and ostracism. Even when there were a couple of members of my family saying "good job" about something, there were often much louder voices saying mean things, or making obvious overtures that I should be ashamed of myself for being the least bit proud of my accomplishments or confident in my abilities.

So I may actually have developed an aversion to reaching a goal due to the chemical anti- rewards my system has given me in association with accomplishment, and with others knowing about my accomplishments, or others seeing me doing something.

When we have negative associations with something, we create a virtual electric fence for ourselves. Our subconscious is protecting us from negative experiences or danger. It learned from past experiences: "When you get an A, you will get made fun of and threatened by other kids" which is much more imprinting on the subconscious than a pat on the head from a relative. It IS what happens, it IS reality, the subconscious knows this even if people are saying "no it's not true... you should be happy that you got an A."
When you are trying to learn how to skateboard, your brain learns that every time you take it out in the driveway or down to the school parking lot, you will get made fun and physically bullied. It has learned that when you take your skateboard out to practice, someone will push you down or take your skateboard, and at the very least they will sit there and make fun of you loudly, interfering with your concentration and ability to learn. Your BRAIN has learned this, even if when you get home the adults say "Oh just ignore them" or "You need to get thicker skin." (That family member would have done a heck of a lot more for you if they had simply come down to the school parking lot with you and spent time with you while you learned to skateboard. The brats probably wouldn't even have come around then.) So on top of your brain learning that every time you take out the skateboard you will be bullied, your brain also learns that no one is going to stand by you against bullies so you can actually learn.
After that "lesson" is learned, your subconscious says "Put that back" whenever you go to take the skateboard out. If you don't listen, you probably become anxious. This is the anti-reward, your brain saying "No! This is not good! Don't go there!"

We can also develop chemical reward associations from doing things that are both positive and destructive. The neurochemical response from "winning" can be addictive for many humans. When this addiction happens, a person may bypass his or her own values in order to get this reward, not unlike a hit of some other drug. The person learns that if they dominate another person in some way, they will receive a neurochemical reward.

The less-aware person often takes themselves very seriously in seeking this reward, because they often believe that the feeling they are getting is based in the EXTERNAL world. In other words: "If I win this game, I will be more important." or "If I win this argument, I will continue to be an important person." They don't realize the feeling of importance they are getting is from their OWN brain, not from the WORLD.
Of course when one or two people pat this person on the back for whatever they did, it reaffirms their belief that it's the world  that's giving them this reward feeling, not their own system.

This neurochemical reward system is one of the reasons why we often keep behaving in destructive ways even though we can see that something is not right.
Winning and domination over others is one of the most common neurochemical response addictions in the world, in the human species. It can be seen in other species as well, very clearly, however humans seem to be the only ones who destroy their own group with this addiction. Chimpanzees, our closest relative, do make war with one another and kill one another, and they attack others in their own tribe as well, but not like humans do. Bonobos, however, who are also called "Pygmy Chimpanzees", do not do this like Chimps or humans; they are adamant about peace-keeping, but they do this by substituting one reward for another: physical contact.

When a human is addicted to the neurochemical reward from winning and domination over others, he or she often seeks out ways to stimulate the chemical reward, to the exclusion of other things in life and the well-being of others, and of themselves.

They might try to make as much money as possible, or have the best work or sales record, they might be fixated on rising to the top of a company, organization, or field by any means.

They might find themselves in serious arguments with others frequently; starting a conflict or arguing with another person is a common way to try to "win", and therefore receive the neurochemical reward.
Denying the requests of others habitually is also a way to "win" and get the reward.
So is putting others down and judging them as "bad"; this is another way to feel like the "winner".
Joining a clique that excludes others based on physical differences is another way to get the "winning" reward. (No girls allowed, no Caucasians allowed, no fat or short people allowed, etc.)
Politicians USE people's addictions to this neuro reward to convince them to join their party (Their party is the "Good Person's Party..." better than the people from the other parties... )
Changing plans frequently and canceling them is another way; "I lead always, you follow always" will produce the Winning reward.
Haggling is another common way to receive this neurochemical reward.
Unfortunately cheating, conning, and tricking others also produces this neurochemical high.

Winning games and contests (ANY; sports, cards, music contests, spelling bees, chess, lotto, video games, etc)  is an obvious way to receive this neurochemical reward, and does not tread on ethics unless it becomes an addiction that leads to cheating, lying, stealing, exclusion of race or sex, sabotage, prejudice, and bullying.
(We see this every day, sadly.)

Criticizing others for pretty much anything produces this chemical reward, that's why there are so many people who criticize others with no regard for the impact it has on the person or the person's life, and often the criticism has no basis in reality or fact.

Throughout history "conquerors" have displayed massive addiction-behavior to the neurochemical rewards they receive from dominating other humans. Obviously destroying others does not improve the world, but that's what they would use as an excuse to do the thing that gave them their fix. It's still going on today, of course, all over the world, from large countries to small towns, to organizations, religions, anti-religions, and businesses.

Neurochemical rewards and un-rewards are a fact of life and science for we human beings, and most other creatures, so when we learn about them, especially our own, we can have more genuine autonomy and control over our own lives.