Human Progress Vs. Sabotage By Narcissism

Training Camp!

Why do human cultures, families, organizations and communities seem to have such a hard time making progress, achieving peace, or eradicating depression, crime, WAR, and poverty?

There's a rather large obstacle to a better world, and it's been around for centuries. It's been written about and documented for eons as well, but it doesn't seem to go away because it's so pervasive, like weeds and pests in a beautiful garden that take over and destroy what we're trying to cultivate. It grows and tries to take root anywhere there are humans. The obstacle is the condition known as Narcissism, and it's been embedded in the fabric of the human species for a very long time. It perpetuates itself through modeling, oppressing, brainwashing and direct training of young people who are all new to this world, learning and absorbing what they're being shown, and being kept from learning what they're NOT being shown.

The biggest threat to Power Mongers and Control Freaks everywhere is knowledge and awareness, so if you really want to "fight the power", read, read, read, and learn, learn, learn.  OBSERVE YOURSELF first and foremost; your own biases. behavior habits, and beliefs in your own personal life. Only then is it possible to see what's going on with other people, because we aren't denying it in ourselves any longer.  (Remember just because you're a woman doesn't mean you weren't conditioned to be biased against women; just because you're black doesn't mean you weren't conditioned to be prejudice against black people; just because you THINK you genuinely respect others doesn't mean you didn't get conditioned subconsciously to see certain others as less worthy or less capable.)


Narcissists train others, both directly and indirectly, to do and believe certain things. These beliefs and behaviors have been tearing down and sabotaging the progress we struggle to make as a species throughout human history:

To become subjugate; accept a "lower status" position as a human being than others.

To believe that some adults innately deserve power and authority, PERSONALLY, over other adults.

To follow the group and the crowd; avoid independent thought, observation, and learning.

To allow others into one's personal and private space, and step over one's boundaries on command.

To NOT know that EVERY ONE'S personal space and boundaries are sacred, and no one should be allowed "in" unless they were genuinely invited by THAT PERSON alone.

To believe one's self to be naturally entitled to LESS or MORE privilege, power, authority, "extra relaxation and pleasure", and being served by others.

To believe that one is not "good enough", and that one "doesn't really belong", and that others have the valid right to decide this.

To actually buy into believing that disrespect, arrogance, bad manners and bullying are signals of authority, "superior knowledge", and general supremacy.

To fear and avoid standing up for others or for themselves.

To turn against members of one's own family and community; to  try to dominate them; to betray, slander, or scapegoat them.

To accept domination, disrespect, and condescension from CERTAIN others, as if it's okay for them to do it because one has accepted them as having "higher social status" or "authority".

To compete for approval, attention, and acceptance against those whom one should be supporting and bonding with.

To believe that dominating and knocking down others is perfectly "okay", and is the way to get ahead.

To believe one's self (and others like one's self) to be naturally incapable of learning, understanding, or performing certain concepts, tasks, and skills.

To believe that those who are DIFFERENT than one's self to be incapable of learning, understanding, or performing certain concepts, tasks and skills.

To NOT BE ABLE TO SEE or UNDERSTAND the difference between legitimate hierarchies that are for structural purposes only such as business and government, and hierarchies that are illusions (MADE-UP), based on false beliefs and assumptions around sexism, racism, age, and body type.

To mentally delete and ignore evidence and information that contradicts the beliefs and directives of those who claim "Authority", in small groups or larger groups.

To believe that some people are born innately superior, and others are born innately inferior.

To buy into one's own, or someone else's, superficial judgments and assumptions about other people.

To rebel for the sake of rebellion; to be a random "rule-breaker".

To distrust others, to seek control, and to see those who need help or assistance as "losers", including one's self and one's family members.
(This prevents bonding, respect, team building, and progress within one's group.)

To accept and believe gossip and rumors about others.

To believe that retaliation is just "part of human nature", and that "everyone does it", and that there's nothing wrong with it.

To believe that it's "perfectly okay" to treat those who are physically smaller than they are with condescension and disrespect, and to accept condescension and disrespect from those who are larger than they are.

To buy into assumptions and stereotypes about the abilities and limitations of each sex, and to project them onto other people.

To create HOSTILE ENVIRONMENTS in order to prevent specific persons from working, learning, playing, and participating in a group; to drive them out. (Like treating a white person like he's not welcome and not wanted in a Hispanic Church, or constantly harassing a male nurse so he'll quit, or treating a female tradesman with continuous condescension, disrespect and haranguing so she'll quit or "go away").

To believe that WAR, aggression, and violence are "necessary sometimes" to get what you WANT, and that anyone who doesn't agree is "weak" or "ignorant".

To believe that "class structures" (wealthy, middle class, poor) are real, and permanent.

To believe that those in one "class" are better than those in another "class".

To feel doubt, anxiety, and an undercurrent of discomfort or fear; to feel like one is always "behind the 8 ball", and doesn't have enough money or time, and isn't successful enough.

That it's "okay" to chase away that doubt, anxiety, and discomfort  with all manner of addictive or mind-altering substances.
(The drug trade, both legal and illegal, makes a lot of people a LOT of money, and therefore gives them lots of power and influence).

To believe that one can actually assess another person based on surface, superficial, incidental and circumstantial things such as their appearance at the moment, their body, sex, clothes and hair, their age, their car, their job, and on first impressions.

To believe that superficial appearance is the most important priority in a person's life, and to judge one's self and others based on superficial appearances, as if it's an indication of character.

To believe that "social hierarchies" are REAL, and are based on actual intelligence, experience, wisdom.

To believe stereotypes and other fictions (about others and themselves): regarding race, sex, religion, "class", ancestry, body type and size, even hair color

To fall for CONS and SMOKE SHOWS that serve Narcissists well, such as:

~Innate Superiority or Innate Inferiority
~Celebrity privilege
~Martyr syndrome
~Male Privilege and/or Authority
~Small Person's Ignorance, Weakness, or Innocence
~Tall Person's Privilege, Assumed Authority, and Assumed Knowledge or Intelligence
~Badges, Titles, Certificates and Degrees~ (assuming that because a person has one of these things, they must be an Expert, good at their job, more knowledgeable than anyone who does not possess one of these things, or that they're honest. Oldest trick in the book).


(It's what Jesus Christ of Nazareth was crucified for.)

Archetypes And Images; The Business Of Conning

There are several character Archetypes that many people often try to put on as an image to present to the world. It can be benign, even positive, or it can be dangerous, depending on the individual's motives.
Some build their image to match a certain Archetype because they really want to live up to a certain persona, such as one full of humility and grace, and their core self is already somewhat aligned with their chosen Archetype. Sometimes people don't really believe they can just grow and learn within their own skin, and need to become like someone else in order to achieve their goals of "becoming".
Others do it because a certain image seems to get more positive attention from other people the way an attractive hairstyle or certain clothing does, more than just "being themselves". Sometimes the attention is not actually positive or respectful, but they don't realize it because they are only noticing the increase of attention, not what kind of attention it really is.
Still others are putting on the mask of an Archetype in order to convince people to trust and respect them so they can con them and/or gain control over them. They have learned that people will believe and follow certain images, and they hone that image with actual effort in order to make it seem like who they really are. Of course it's just an image, like wearing a hat or a mask, or even a costume; the person underneath is really a different animal altogether, with a completely different agenda and focus. Their chosen Archetype is literally a facade that they built on purpose. It's  much like they are wearing a really convincing Abraham Lincoln or Mother Teresa costume, or any other Archetype that people are known to respond to positively, with trust and admiration, or respect, or sometimes fear, but the " I deserve more admiration and respect than most people" costume is the most effective.
Abraham Lincoln and Mother Teresa were real people, but their images live on as Archetypes when someone wants to wear them as a mask to appear good and righteous, so others will believe and trust them. There are many Archetypes that Mask-Wearers might put on.

 Some we have probably run into (we may have seen through the facade, or swallowed it):

Cowboy types, Beauty Queen, Powerful Business Person, Celebrity, Spiritual Leader, Wise Shaman or Chief, Highly Skilled Warrior, Empathetic Caregiver, Brilliant Scientist, The Expert (Craftsman/Carpenter/Mechanic/Mason, etc), Rock Star, Regular Joe, Down To Earth Jane, Strong and Silent, Virtuous and Righteous, Very Hard Worker, Hero, Prophet, Angel Of Hope, Savior.  There are many more, of course, that you probably know quite well. Maybe you have seen through some of them.


It's important to remember that we really can't tell if someone is genuine, or is wearing a facade, for quite a while. The truth is we often like and trust fakers more than we like or trust a genuine person, because we like the shiny image that fakers wear. We can also easily mistake one for the other, so the best way to find out is to play it safe and keep healthy boundaries intact. We don't want to reject a truly "good" person just because they seem "too good to be true", that would be quite a loss, genuinely "good" or trustworthy and honest people are rare  blessings in our lives; and we don't want to let an Image Wearer get close to us by buying into their "good and trustworthy" mask.
The most amazing thing about the practice of building and wearing false images is how people just keep on doing it, and it keeps on working because other people keep on falling for it. No matter how many fables are written, how many warnings are written in religious texts, how many times throughout history it's caused horrific damage, or how many stories, plays, and movies are created trying to expose it for what it is, the lesson just doesn't seem to get through. Humans as a species seem to be very slow learners when it comes to "Leaders" and "Followers".
A common practice that many who believe they have awakened from being blind followers of manipulative leaders is simply rejecting one leader and group, but continuing to follow other ones, and also finding new ones. As long as they have rejected ONE or two of the leaders and groups they had been blindly following, they believe they have accomplished their goal of independence and awareness.
Another common practice is rejecting any and all guidance, instruction, leadership, or connection with others, as if every teacher, spiritual person, writer, or philosopher who ever spoke was a cult leader, trying to manipulate the masses. However this is based in fear, and results in the rejection of learning about anything that's outside one's own limited point of view. When our personal boundaries are healthy and strong, we can hear others freely without becoming indoctrinated, and learn new things from their points of view, ideas, and experiences.
So many humans buying into and believing in stereotypes, status, and "social hierarchy" keeps Image Makers, Cons, Phonies, and the dangerous kind of politicians in THRIVING business. If we want to really see through them, we need to stop believing in the fictions our cultures have made up about human beings, and learn to stop placing some people on pedestals and not others.
Only when we see all other people, including ourselves, as equally worthy and beautiful as one another will we be able to discern those who are wearing masks.