Asperger's "Disorder" ?

If people with Aspergers/autism get along fine with other people who have autism, and don't bully or make fun of either autistic people OR non-autistic people, then, where is the social disorder, really? Wouldn't the disorder be found in the people who have a hard time accepting others, and dealing with their differences...? Pretty sure the whole "social awkardness" thing is quite backwards. If Henry has Asperger's, and he is polite, courteous and accepting toward everyone, then how does he have a disorder? Frank, on the other hand, does not have any autism, and makes fun of Henry and avoids him, even gossips about him to other people. Pretty sure it's FRANK who has the disorder, not Henry...
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