All "Narcissists" have some things in common, regardless of their underlying issues:
A compulsion to dominate and control anyone who happens to be in their world,
the belief that their opinions and perception are almost always, or are 100% factual and correct,
a feeling of satisfaction when they can find a "flaw" in another person, or another person's work.
frequently attempting to find "flaws" where none exist.
an ever-present running current of envy, jealousy, and disdain.
an inability to differentiate their personal feelings from the real world around them,
compulsion to judge others very negatively or very positively,
acceptance of stereotypes about other people
denial of any of their own mistakes, flaws, lack of ability or knowledge, and especially of their poor treatment of others.
annoyance toward others for hundred of reasons, but mostly for having any needs, expressing any emotion, appearing confident, expecting to be treated with actual respect, disagreeing even politely, not completely complying with the Narcissist's expectations, being different than the Narcissist had assumed, being right, being good at something, needing any assistance, being happy about something, caring about someone else, talking about anything that the Narcissist is not somehow included in.
projecting their own motives, feelings, and behaviors onto other people. (the reason they want to get promoted is so they can be "special" and boss others around, so they assume that's why everyone else wants to get promoted).
a strong desire to be the star of any story or show, whether they're the hero, the villain, or the innocent victim; most prefer the hero or victim role, but many will take the villain role, especially because they think it scares people.
exaggerated assumptions about other people (many Narcissists will for example see one person as being VERY STRONG, and another person as being VERY WEAK).
an image of themselves as a certain Character, someone they knew in real life, or someone from stories or movies.
projecting "Characters" onto other people, either from their personal past, or from stories or movies; they'll match specific things about a person to a character, and then assume that's how the person really is, and treat them accordingly. (If you remind them of Chuck Norris, and they think he's cool, they'll think you're just like him and therefore you're cool too. If you remind them of a little girl from their neighborhood because of your blond hair, they'll treat you as if you are the SAME as the girl. Etc.)
an inability to see other people as multi-faceted,
projecting "preset" assumptions onto other people based almost solely on their physical traits; if you're a pretty female, you must be whatever their presets are: so, perhaps stuck-up, or perhaps promiscuous, or stupid; if you're a physically strong female, you must be homosexual, or crazy, or trying to dominate men; if you're African-descent, you must be whatever their presets are about black people; if you're Caucasian, you must be whatever their presets are about white people, etc.
a lack of flexibility in thinking, feeling, and action,
serious ego-identity issues,
the need to be seen and noticed in order to feel real,
belief that they're entitled to better treatment from others than they give,
huge difficulty in sharing resources with anyone, including their own children- small or adult.
When they do share resources it's usually in order to gain something for themselves, such as recognition and credit, so they're more likely to donate resources to "important" people and institutions where they'll be SEEN and recorded.
a need for hierarchy, and a belief that social hierarchy is real,
an apparent complete blindness to their own behaviors (a narcissist will chastise and attack another person for doing the exact thing that they're doing).
a compulsion to feel above others in order to feel worthy,
lack of ability to actually connect with others,
addiction to some kind of "supply", whatever it may be, and denial of having that addiction,
using anyone in order to get their supply,
an apparent inability to empathize, or empathize accurately (some can do it to a degree, but are very limited, for instance they may only recognize a couple of emotions, or only emotions in people who are similar to themselves, or people they "like" at the moment.)
the desire to be seen as one of some kind of elite crowd, which could mean anything: one of the "important" people, "one of the guys", an "eccentric", a "great person", a member of a certain club or organization; one of the "cool" people, one of the "good" people, one of the "intelligent" people, etc.
lack of care about any damage or suffering they inflict on others;
a feeling of self-righteousness;
reaction of rage (either smoldering or explosive) when someone does not allow them to dominate them or control them; when someone else has equal or greater skill, talent, looks, power, etc.: when someone else is getting more attention than they are for any reason; when they get caught doing something wrong; when their hidden agenda gets exposed; when someone sees through their false image; when someone does not treat them as an elite; when someone does not recognize their "superiority"; when someone stands up to them, or for someone else.
desire and compulsion to retaliate for real OR misconstrued, OR delusion-based "wrongdoings" of others
A compulsion to dominate and control anyone who happens to be in their world,
the belief that their opinions and perception are almost always, or are 100% factual and correct,
a feeling of satisfaction when they can find a "flaw" in another person, or another person's work.
frequently attempting to find "flaws" where none exist.
an ever-present running current of envy, jealousy, and disdain.
an inability to differentiate their personal feelings from the real world around them,
compulsion to judge others very negatively or very positively,
acceptance of stereotypes about other people
denial of any of their own mistakes, flaws, lack of ability or knowledge, and especially of their poor treatment of others.
annoyance toward others for hundred of reasons, but mostly for having any needs, expressing any emotion, appearing confident, expecting to be treated with actual respect, disagreeing even politely, not completely complying with the Narcissist's expectations, being different than the Narcissist had assumed, being right, being good at something, needing any assistance, being happy about something, caring about someone else, talking about anything that the Narcissist is not somehow included in.
projecting their own motives, feelings, and behaviors onto other people. (the reason they want to get promoted is so they can be "special" and boss others around, so they assume that's why everyone else wants to get promoted).
a strong desire to be the star of any story or show, whether they're the hero, the villain, or the innocent victim; most prefer the hero or victim role, but many will take the villain role, especially because they think it scares people.
exaggerated assumptions about other people (many Narcissists will for example see one person as being VERY STRONG, and another person as being VERY WEAK).
an image of themselves as a certain Character, someone they knew in real life, or someone from stories or movies.
projecting "Characters" onto other people, either from their personal past, or from stories or movies; they'll match specific things about a person to a character, and then assume that's how the person really is, and treat them accordingly. (If you remind them of Chuck Norris, and they think he's cool, they'll think you're just like him and therefore you're cool too. If you remind them of a little girl from their neighborhood because of your blond hair, they'll treat you as if you are the SAME as the girl. Etc.)
an inability to see other people as multi-faceted,
projecting "preset" assumptions onto other people based almost solely on their physical traits; if you're a pretty female, you must be whatever their presets are: so, perhaps stuck-up, or perhaps promiscuous, or stupid; if you're a physically strong female, you must be homosexual, or crazy, or trying to dominate men; if you're African-descent, you must be whatever their presets are about black people; if you're Caucasian, you must be whatever their presets are about white people, etc.
a lack of flexibility in thinking, feeling, and action,
serious ego-identity issues,
the need to be seen and noticed in order to feel real,
belief that they're entitled to better treatment from others than they give,
huge difficulty in sharing resources with anyone, including their own children- small or adult.
When they do share resources it's usually in order to gain something for themselves, such as recognition and credit, so they're more likely to donate resources to "important" people and institutions where they'll be SEEN and recorded.
a need for hierarchy, and a belief that social hierarchy is real,
an apparent complete blindness to their own behaviors (a narcissist will chastise and attack another person for doing the exact thing that they're doing).
a compulsion to feel above others in order to feel worthy,
lack of ability to actually connect with others,
addiction to some kind of "supply", whatever it may be, and denial of having that addiction,
using anyone in order to get their supply,
an apparent inability to empathize, or empathize accurately (some can do it to a degree, but are very limited, for instance they may only recognize a couple of emotions, or only emotions in people who are similar to themselves, or people they "like" at the moment.)
the desire to be seen as one of some kind of elite crowd, which could mean anything: one of the "important" people, "one of the guys", an "eccentric", a "great person", a member of a certain club or organization; one of the "cool" people, one of the "good" people, one of the "intelligent" people, etc.
lack of care about any damage or suffering they inflict on others;
a feeling of self-righteousness;
reaction of rage (either smoldering or explosive) when someone does not allow them to dominate them or control them; when someone else has equal or greater skill, talent, looks, power, etc.: when someone else is getting more attention than they are for any reason; when they get caught doing something wrong; when their hidden agenda gets exposed; when someone sees through their false image; when someone does not treat them as an elite; when someone does not recognize their "superiority"; when someone stands up to them, or for someone else.
desire and compulsion to retaliate for real OR misconstrued, OR delusion-based "wrongdoings" of others
