Many
of us feel hopeless because we think we've tried everything to make
life better. But, let's be serious, no one has tried everything. Maybe
you've tried 10 things—changing some behavior, therapy, medication, etc.
When none of these things change your life drastically, you
conclude, "See, it's hopeless." But there are different kinds of
therapy, different techniques and combinations of different medications
to try. Aside from outside help, you might consider giving up on ways of
thinking and acting that haven't worked for you: worrying, complaining,
avoiding, isolating and taking things personally.
Every time
you catch yourself doing one of these things, remind yourself that it
just doesn't work. But other things might work: accepting, tolerating
discomfort, doing what you don't want to do but what could be good for
you.