Are women manipulative?
The "secret" is simple, and if you don't get THIS, you won't get any of it:
SOME women are manipulative!
Just like SOME MEN are manipulative, some white people are, some black people are, some brown people are. Some young people are... some older people are... Some tall people are... some short people are... some average height people are. etc, etc, etc. ad nauseum.
Reality is, there is no ONE PARAMETER for female behavior. Women are all individual people. If you want to know more about one particular woman, you need to get to KNOW HER. You will FAIL if you think you have her "figured out" just because she's female! That's insane! Every human being is an individual PERSON, that's actual reality.
You can see groups of boys and groups of men all acting in a similar way, talking like each other, dressing similarly, because they all grew up together, or are from the same area, the same family, or work together, or hang out with each other a lot. Does that make them literal CLONES? Do they each have their own thoughts, feelings, preferences, abilities, and aspirations? Or are they all just versions of one original "Male", all just slightly varied in physical appearance? Come on, use some logic!
Human beings mimic the humans they grow up around, they learn how to talk, how to dress, how to carry themselves, how to SOUND when they talk, which words to use. (That's how accents and regional dialects are created). They ALSO learn what social behavior will be ACCEPTED by the human groups they are in. If they don't act similarly to the other members in certain ways, they will not be accepted in a particular group!
Everyone knows this on a certain level, but everyone also likes to deny that it's true, probably because it's so lame.
So, the boys act like the other boys, and the girls act like the other girls. The ones who don't conform get picked on and left out. We all know this, and yet most people deny it. Interesting, isn't it?
So THEN, the girls all start to refer to boys as if they're all clones, all exactly alike, because they LOOK like they're all clones, because they're all acting and talking like each other. It doesn't help when older people add to this false assumption.
The BOYS will do the same thing; they see a group of girls all acting and talking like each other, and they think the same thing, that the girls are all CLONES, they all want the same things, they all like the same things, they're all only capable of certain "girl" things, and they're all afraid of certain things. And again, this assumption is made much worse when adults encourage it because of their own issues.
If you want to learn about the opposite sex, LET GO of your childhood assumption that the opposite sex is populated by carbon copies! It's a ridiculous notion that gets perpetuated by both male and female SEXIST NUMB SKULLS who like to teach children and young people WRONG, so they can manipulate and control them.
A HEALTHY, GOOD ROMANTIC RELATIONSHIP IS A VERY CLOSE FRIENDSHIP.
THE FRIENDSHIP IS THE FOUNDATION; WITHOUT THAT, YOU HAVE NOTHING BUT A ONE NIGHT STAND WITH A PERSON YOU DON'T EVEN KNOW. YOU'RE ASSUMING YOU KNOW ALL ABOUT THEM BECAUSE "YOU KNOW ALL ABOUT WOMEN"?!?
HOW DELUDED IS THAT?!
WHICH MEANS YOU ARE RISKING MAKING AN INTIMATE CONNECTION WITH A PERSON WHO MAY TURN OUT TO BE AN UNSTABLE HUMAN, WHO MIGHT DECIDE TO STALK YOU OR CAUSE YOU ALL KINDS OF HAVOC. THEY COULD HAVE A DISEASE, THEY COULD HAVE AN ABUSIVE MENTAL ILLNESS, THEY COULD HAVE ABUSIVE OR PSYCHOTIC FAMILY MEMBERS OR FRIENDS, THEY COULD BE A THIEF, A CON, EVEN A MURDERER. YOU DON'T KNOW BECAUSE YOU NEVER GOT TO KNOW THEM AS A FRIEND FIRST, SO TECHNICALLY, IT'S YOUR FAULT IF THEY TURN OUT TO BE A NUTJOB.
So, instead of meeting someone very, very cool, who you get to know with respect, hospitality, and sharing interests and activities (just like how you would get to know another guy), who might turn out to be the best friend you ever had, you "hook up" with a human who you simply find "hot", but whom you know barely anything about. And since you ASSUME that you know SO MUCH about the opposite sex (like you took a course on a different species), you never take the TIME or make any effort to get to know this person, and build a FRIENDSHIP. A genuine friendship, like you did with your other friends. And then it falls apart, and you complain that "nice guys finish last". Give us a break. Truly "Nice Guys" don't think of women as clones of each other, they have genuine friendships with females, RECIPROCAL friendships where neither one is "the boss", and neither one is treated like some other species.
The bottom line is, if you want to understand women, you should let go of the adolescent notion that they're all just different versions of each other, and realize that they're PEOPLE, just like you are. Some of them are JERKS, some of them are manipulative, some of them are judgmental, just like men. Some women are well-rounded, some are brilliant, some are very kind, some are averagely kind, some like to skydive, some like to garden, some love alligators and snakes and horses and dogs and cats.
MANY have been conditioned to believe that they are less than they really are, and a "Nice Guy" would be able to recognize this common occurrence in our culture, and want to be a FRIEND, and be supportive of their female friend when she attempts to gain back the self-confidence that may have been stripped from her a long time ago. (Do you seriously think that girls wouldn't be able to learn how to fix a car, install a window, or play guitar if they hadn't been purposely left out when the boys were being shown how by someone's father or uncle or older brother? Use your head. I knew a man who ate his steak raw because he was taught that men can't cook. True story.)
A NICE GUY would have zero desire to control or MANIPULATE anyone, especially a FRIEND, romantic or not. A NICE GUY would want their friend to be fully confident in their OWN SKIN, and fulfill their REAL potential, and BE HAPPY. A NICE GUY would STAND UP for their friend when they get treated with disrespect, whether that disrespect was from a store clerk, from a "friend", or from a member of their own family.
Forget all that crap that women have this ONE CENTRAL MENTALITY, that's quite whacked. Just get to KNOW people, for real, and over a period of time. Would you let a guy move into your apartment who you just met at a bar? Use your head! Would you assume your guy friend is a "bitch" because he said something you didn't like? Do you feel entitled to rule over your male friends, or PUNISH them when they don't do what you wanted them to do? Do you see your male friends as "ALL GOOD' or "ALL BAD"? Or do you see them as PEOPLE, with a million facets of personality?
It's very simple, just unlearn the insanity, and embrace true reality and logic.
The "secret" is simple, and if you don't get THIS, you won't get any of it:
SOME women are manipulative!
Just like SOME MEN are manipulative, some white people are, some black people are, some brown people are. Some young people are... some older people are... Some tall people are... some short people are... some average height people are. etc, etc, etc. ad nauseum.
Reality is, there is no ONE PARAMETER for female behavior. Women are all individual people. If you want to know more about one particular woman, you need to get to KNOW HER. You will FAIL if you think you have her "figured out" just because she's female! That's insane! Every human being is an individual PERSON, that's actual reality.
You can see groups of boys and groups of men all acting in a similar way, talking like each other, dressing similarly, because they all grew up together, or are from the same area, the same family, or work together, or hang out with each other a lot. Does that make them literal CLONES? Do they each have their own thoughts, feelings, preferences, abilities, and aspirations? Or are they all just versions of one original "Male", all just slightly varied in physical appearance? Come on, use some logic!
Human beings mimic the humans they grow up around, they learn how to talk, how to dress, how to carry themselves, how to SOUND when they talk, which words to use. (That's how accents and regional dialects are created). They ALSO learn what social behavior will be ACCEPTED by the human groups they are in. If they don't act similarly to the other members in certain ways, they will not be accepted in a particular group!
Everyone knows this on a certain level, but everyone also likes to deny that it's true, probably because it's so lame.
So, the boys act like the other boys, and the girls act like the other girls. The ones who don't conform get picked on and left out. We all know this, and yet most people deny it. Interesting, isn't it?
So THEN, the girls all start to refer to boys as if they're all clones, all exactly alike, because they LOOK like they're all clones, because they're all acting and talking like each other. It doesn't help when older people add to this false assumption.
The BOYS will do the same thing; they see a group of girls all acting and talking like each other, and they think the same thing, that the girls are all CLONES, they all want the same things, they all like the same things, they're all only capable of certain "girl" things, and they're all afraid of certain things. And again, this assumption is made much worse when adults encourage it because of their own issues.
If you want to learn about the opposite sex, LET GO of your childhood assumption that the opposite sex is populated by carbon copies! It's a ridiculous notion that gets perpetuated by both male and female SEXIST NUMB SKULLS who like to teach children and young people WRONG, so they can manipulate and control them.
A HEALTHY, GOOD ROMANTIC RELATIONSHIP IS A VERY CLOSE FRIENDSHIP.
THE FRIENDSHIP IS THE FOUNDATION; WITHOUT THAT, YOU HAVE NOTHING BUT A ONE NIGHT STAND WITH A PERSON YOU DON'T EVEN KNOW. YOU'RE ASSUMING YOU KNOW ALL ABOUT THEM BECAUSE "YOU KNOW ALL ABOUT WOMEN"?!?
HOW DELUDED IS THAT?!
WHICH MEANS YOU ARE RISKING MAKING AN INTIMATE CONNECTION WITH A PERSON WHO MAY TURN OUT TO BE AN UNSTABLE HUMAN, WHO MIGHT DECIDE TO STALK YOU OR CAUSE YOU ALL KINDS OF HAVOC. THEY COULD HAVE A DISEASE, THEY COULD HAVE AN ABUSIVE MENTAL ILLNESS, THEY COULD HAVE ABUSIVE OR PSYCHOTIC FAMILY MEMBERS OR FRIENDS, THEY COULD BE A THIEF, A CON, EVEN A MURDERER. YOU DON'T KNOW BECAUSE YOU NEVER GOT TO KNOW THEM AS A FRIEND FIRST, SO TECHNICALLY, IT'S YOUR FAULT IF THEY TURN OUT TO BE A NUTJOB.
So, instead of meeting someone very, very cool, who you get to know with respect, hospitality, and sharing interests and activities (just like how you would get to know another guy), who might turn out to be the best friend you ever had, you "hook up" with a human who you simply find "hot", but whom you know barely anything about. And since you ASSUME that you know SO MUCH about the opposite sex (like you took a course on a different species), you never take the TIME or make any effort to get to know this person, and build a FRIENDSHIP. A genuine friendship, like you did with your other friends. And then it falls apart, and you complain that "nice guys finish last". Give us a break. Truly "Nice Guys" don't think of women as clones of each other, they have genuine friendships with females, RECIPROCAL friendships where neither one is "the boss", and neither one is treated like some other species.
The bottom line is, if you want to understand women, you should let go of the adolescent notion that they're all just different versions of each other, and realize that they're PEOPLE, just like you are. Some of them are JERKS, some of them are manipulative, some of them are judgmental, just like men. Some women are well-rounded, some are brilliant, some are very kind, some are averagely kind, some like to skydive, some like to garden, some love alligators and snakes and horses and dogs and cats.
MANY have been conditioned to believe that they are less than they really are, and a "Nice Guy" would be able to recognize this common occurrence in our culture, and want to be a FRIEND, and be supportive of their female friend when she attempts to gain back the self-confidence that may have been stripped from her a long time ago. (Do you seriously think that girls wouldn't be able to learn how to fix a car, install a window, or play guitar if they hadn't been purposely left out when the boys were being shown how by someone's father or uncle or older brother? Use your head. I knew a man who ate his steak raw because he was taught that men can't cook. True story.)
A NICE GUY would have zero desire to control or MANIPULATE anyone, especially a FRIEND, romantic or not. A NICE GUY would want their friend to be fully confident in their OWN SKIN, and fulfill their REAL potential, and BE HAPPY. A NICE GUY would STAND UP for their friend when they get treated with disrespect, whether that disrespect was from a store clerk, from a "friend", or from a member of their own family.
Forget all that crap that women have this ONE CENTRAL MENTALITY, that's quite whacked. Just get to KNOW people, for real, and over a period of time. Would you let a guy move into your apartment who you just met at a bar? Use your head! Would you assume your guy friend is a "bitch" because he said something you didn't like? Do you feel entitled to rule over your male friends, or PUNISH them when they don't do what you wanted them to do? Do you see your male friends as "ALL GOOD' or "ALL BAD"? Or do you see them as PEOPLE, with a million facets of personality?
It's very simple, just unlearn the insanity, and embrace true reality and logic.
