More Important

You are not less important.

Your work is not less important.
Your life and experiences are real, just as real as any adventurer who ever lived, or famous journalist, or star of stage or sports, or well-known person from history.
Your emotions are not less valid.
Your actions do not make less of an impact.
Your words do not matter less.
Your smile always makes an impact, even if what you get in ...return is a snotty stare.
Your attitude and spirit does color the room that you're in, no matter how "quiet" you are.
You are just as real and just as alive and just as valid of a human as any other human who ever lived on this Earth.

The only ones who want you to believe otherwise are those who fear that you're more important than they are.
Hard to believe, but true.

~M.Mimi Black

Why Narcissists Reject People

The reason a narcissist will reject a person is not because they actually did something wrong, heinous, cruel, traitorous, or evil.
It's usually the other way around.
The narc. who owes you money and doesn't want to pay you back will reject YOU. They will act as if you deserve to get rejected because you are a terrible person; they will probably slander your name, barrage you with accusations of being a bad person, and might even threaten you. They will tell whoever will listen that you did something wrong with the money. (Picture a scared rabbit trying to desperately get away from a dog who has cornered him or her, scrabbling and jumping wildly, doing anything to escape. Narcs. feel trapped when they owe someone for anything, so if they think it will work, they will try to turn the whole thing around as if the person they owe is some kind of predator, crazy, or heavy, and they are the real "victim".)
The narc. who backstabbed and lied about you either for fun, or to try to make you look bad in order to make themselves seem better by comparison ~ will reject YOU if you find out about it, or if they're afraid you might find out about it. They can NOT TOLERATE getting caught doing something wrong, so they twist it and turn it around and, again, try to make the entire situation look like YOU are the one who did something wrong to THEM.
The narc. who physically assaulted you in some way, either as an adult or a child, will reject YOU. Again, they CAN NOT TOLERATE getting seen as doing something wrong, so they twist and turn the real events into a backwards version where YOU are the one who instigated, started, or caused the assault.

People who are either biased FOR the Narc, or AGAINST you, will believe every word the Narc says, before they even get to the end of the Tall Tale. And even if they doubt the whole story, they will still refuse to believe that you had no blame in the situation, and will still want to believe that the Narc's actions were justified somehow.

"Well I can't blame him for not paying him back, he wasn't very nice to him..." Even if that was true, "not being nice" is not a REASON to shaft a person for money.

"Well I can understand why she punched her, she can be snotty." Please... do they seriously think it's okay for someone to punch THEM every time they sound "snotty"? No, just that person they don't like... not themselves...(oh and THEY NEVER sound snotty...EVER.. to anyone... ever...they are perfect...)

"Well I can understand why he cheated on her, she would drive any man crazy." Hate/judge much? Betrayal is a CHOICE. If the person can't control themselves, then they need to be medicated and put under supervision, they should not be walking around free among the general population. Betrayal is quite popular among sociopaths and other narc. humans, as is blaming the victim of a betrayal.

Always Your Fault, Never Mine

A TARGET IS NEVER ALLOWED TO BE A VICTIM OF ANYTHING. ONLY THE NARC IS.

EVERYTHING THAT HAPPENS TO THE TARGET IS THE TARGET'S FAULT. ALWAYS.
NOTHING THAT HAPPENS TO THE NARC IS THE NARC'S FAULT. EVER.

THE NARC WILL NEVER FEEL SORRY OR FEEL CONCERN FOR A TARGET BECAUSE IT TAKES THE ATTENTION, THE SPECIAL CONCERN, AND THE SPOTLIGHT OFF OF THE NARC AND PUTS IT ON THE OTHER PERSON.

The Target will be blamed for everything that ever happens in their life; that way no one ever has to HELP them, or give them extra attention, or give them comfort or assistance, or risk their being "liked" by standing up for a target against disrespect or injustice.

If a Target is upset about something, it's because the Target is weak, stupid, emotional, unstable, or pathetic, and the Target should "just get over it and quit being so negative". If the Narc. is upset about the EXACT SAME THING in their own life, (even if it's only an hour later..) then suddenly it's an extremely important and legitimate complaint, a terrible thing, and everyone should listen, empathize, sympathize, and assist.

If the Target receives the wrong Fast Food order, it's NOT the Burger King staff's fault, it's because the Target didn't speak loudly or clearly enough...
But if the Narc. receives the wrong order, then it's ALWAYS the Burger King staff's fault. Even if it's the same BK, the very next day...

If the Target gets hit by another car, it's the Target's fault for being in the wrong place or driving "wrong", going too slow...
If the Narc runs into someone else with their car, it's ALWAYS the other driver's fault (they were going too slow, they weren't watching where they were going). If they run into an object, it was the object's fault. If they hit an animal, it was the animal's fault.

If the Target is betrayed, whether it's for love, money, or friendship, it's the Target's fault, always. SOMEHOW, something the Target did CAUSED the other person to BETRAY THEM.
So, the person (Narc) who didn't pay the Target back money they borrowed is NOT TO BLAME... it's the TARGET'S FAULT that he or she is out that money...
The person (Narc) who cheated on the Target is NOT TO BLAME...something the Target did or didn't do CAUSED the Narc to cheat...
The person (Narc) who backstabbed and slandered a Target is NOT TO BLAME, it was the Target who CAUSED them to slander and gossip...