Narcissists Are Limited
Typically there are certain things that a person who has Narcissism literally can not do.
Depending on the individual, these things can and may or may not include:
Compulsion and reaction control. A person who has Narcissism often has poor compulsion and emotional reaction control, but so do many non-Narcissists. The difference is that a non-N. can admit it, even if it takes a while, and can see it for what it is. A Narcissist will usually rationalize, defend, and try to justify any and all behaviors, no matter what they are.
Tell the difference between one's own opinions, feelings, bias, beliefs, and point of view, and objective reality. Narcissists typically think that if they believe something is so, then it actually IS "so".
"The rose is beautiful" or "Roses are ugly" is the same to them as "The rose is red" or "The rose is a flower".
Think logically and calmly, without prejudice, resentment, emotion or histrionics clouding their thoughts.
Depending on the individual, empathy. People who have Narcissism may be able to empathize, but their interpretations of the feelings and experiences of others are often way off, and are frequently more like assumptions based in a biased "picture" of the other person.
Understand respect and boundaries. Those who are Narcissistic typically feel entitled to all kinds of liberties, indignities, possession and control over others, and the closer a person is to them, the more they tend to feel entitled to disrespect, invade, boss, and criticize them.
Understand that gender roles and other types of character roles are made-up, or why they would be made up. It's common for Narcissists to embrace any kind of bias against either sex, and instead of questioning biases, stereotypes and prejudices, defend them adamantly.
Understand why triangulation, playing favorites, gossip and backstabbing is destructive or wrong.
Understand why manipulation is wrong.
Understand why micromanaging and criticizing another person is wrong.
Comprehend simple and straightforward communication.
Understand what the big deal is about being respectful, considerate, or compassionate toward other people.
Comprehend the difference between "respect" and "fear", or "respect" and "adulation", or "respect" and "hero-worship", or "respect" and "sexual attraction".
Understand the difference between a romantic relationship and a solely sexual relationship.
Comprehend that there is no "natural human hierarchy" based on a person's social "power", or lack thereof. Chimpanzees of course still have hierarchies, but they are a primitive species in a primitive environment.
Reciprocate normal, every-day mutual exchange in relationships.
Follow someone else's lead (whom they don't designate as a "Leader Type" person).
Assist another person without condescension: trying to give lots of advice, or trying to take control.
Understand why humans need positive interaction with other humans.
Refrain from lying when they feel even slightly "backed into a corner".
Refrain from blaming other people for anything and everything.
Understand why mentoring and kindness to girls and boys is so important, or why it's important to NEVER reject or ostracize a child.
"Connect" with another human being on a genuine level; all connections must be modified to fit the N's comfort, expectations, and ego.
Depending on the individual, these things can and may or may not include:
Compulsion and reaction control. A person who has Narcissism often has poor compulsion and emotional reaction control, but so do many non-Narcissists. The difference is that a non-N. can admit it, even if it takes a while, and can see it for what it is. A Narcissist will usually rationalize, defend, and try to justify any and all behaviors, no matter what they are.
Tell the difference between one's own opinions, feelings, bias, beliefs, and point of view, and objective reality. Narcissists typically think that if they believe something is so, then it actually IS "so".
"The rose is beautiful" or "Roses are ugly" is the same to them as "The rose is red" or "The rose is a flower".
Think logically and calmly, without prejudice, resentment, emotion or histrionics clouding their thoughts.
Depending on the individual, empathy. People who have Narcissism may be able to empathize, but their interpretations of the feelings and experiences of others are often way off, and are frequently more like assumptions based in a biased "picture" of the other person.
Understand respect and boundaries. Those who are Narcissistic typically feel entitled to all kinds of liberties, indignities, possession and control over others, and the closer a person is to them, the more they tend to feel entitled to disrespect, invade, boss, and criticize them.
Understand that gender roles and other types of character roles are made-up, or why they would be made up. It's common for Narcissists to embrace any kind of bias against either sex, and instead of questioning biases, stereotypes and prejudices, defend them adamantly.
Understand why triangulation, playing favorites, gossip and backstabbing is destructive or wrong.
Understand why manipulation is wrong.
Understand why micromanaging and criticizing another person is wrong.
Comprehend simple and straightforward communication.
Understand what the big deal is about being respectful, considerate, or compassionate toward other people.
Comprehend the difference between "respect" and "fear", or "respect" and "adulation", or "respect" and "hero-worship", or "respect" and "sexual attraction".
Understand the difference between a romantic relationship and a solely sexual relationship.
Comprehend that there is no "natural human hierarchy" based on a person's social "power", or lack thereof. Chimpanzees of course still have hierarchies, but they are a primitive species in a primitive environment.
Reciprocate normal, every-day mutual exchange in relationships.
Follow someone else's lead (whom they don't designate as a "Leader Type" person).
Assist another person without condescension: trying to give lots of advice, or trying to take control.
Understand why humans need positive interaction with other humans.
Refrain from lying when they feel even slightly "backed into a corner".
Refrain from blaming other people for anything and everything.
Understand why mentoring and kindness to girls and boys is so important, or why it's important to NEVER reject or ostracize a child.
"Connect" with another human being on a genuine level; all connections must be modified to fit the N's comfort, expectations, and ego.
GUN CONTROL? CAR CONTROL! Right To Bear Arms And Drive Cars Vs. Gun Nuts And Bad Drivers
Of course you'd be "anti-gun" if you've never been exposed to what responsible and normal gun ownership looks like.
If the only gun ownership you've ever seen is either in the news or on Crime shows, or by people around you who only own guns because they think it makes them cool or tough, then that's what you might think gun ownership is about.
That's not what the "right to bear arms" is talking about, not at all.
The right to bear arms is talking about RESPONSIBLE citizens having a right to bear arms. Like your very sane and responsible grandparents (or maybe someone else's.) It's not about people who think guns are toys, or use them for crimes, or use them as status symbols or to scare other people.
Those people should NOT own guns, but they're usually the ones who want them the most.
Just like CARS and MOTORCYCLES and other power-engine vehicles.
That's like saying you can't own a car because so many people drive them like idiots, literally killing other people on the road with them every single day, and using them to commit all manner of crimes.
YOU don't drive like an idiot, and YOU'RE not a criminal, so you should keep your license and your car. I don't think you're going to smash into me with your car, or drive through my house, or use your car to rob a bank, transport drugs, or traffic human slaves.
So since you're not using it for CRIME or to hurt people (like other people do), you should keep your license and your car.
It's not really a RIGHT to own a car, like the right to bear arms; it's a privilege, but it's your right to own property, and it's your right even if I don't LIKE you having a car because I think it's dangerous for you to have one.
Do you weave in and out of traffic, drive fast, ride other cars' bumpers, bring aggression and hostility to the road, act like you "own" the road, think you're the "best driver" on the road, endanger other people, ignore traffic laws, cut people off, or use your vehicle for criminal behavior?
If you said "yes" to any of the above, I want you off the road, you're a direct danger to all the other people on the road, as sure as you're pointing a loaded gun but saying "Oh I'm not really gonna shoot it."
I'm personally much more terrified of people who drive cars on the same road as me than most of the people I know who own guns.
An irresponsible owner of either one is a danger to everyone around them.
Who's with me for CAR CONTROL?
NOT joking.
If you're taking Gun Control seriously, then you should take Car Control a lot more seriously.
A LOT MORE violent criminals own cars and endanger others with them every day than own guns.
It's not even a "Right", and it should already be regulated much more strictly than it is.
The only reason it's NOT is because those who like to regulate and control things don't want to have restrictions put on THEM about irresponsible vehicle usage and ownership.
If the only gun ownership you've ever seen is either in the news or on Crime shows, or by people around you who only own guns because they think it makes them cool or tough, then that's what you might think gun ownership is about.
That's not what the "right to bear arms" is talking about, not at all.
The right to bear arms is talking about RESPONSIBLE citizens having a right to bear arms. Like your very sane and responsible grandparents (or maybe someone else's.) It's not about people who think guns are toys, or use them for crimes, or use them as status symbols or to scare other people.
Those people should NOT own guns, but they're usually the ones who want them the most.
Just like CARS and MOTORCYCLES and other power-engine vehicles.
That's like saying you can't own a car because so many people drive them like idiots, literally killing other people on the road with them every single day, and using them to commit all manner of crimes.
YOU don't drive like an idiot, and YOU'RE not a criminal, so you should keep your license and your car. I don't think you're going to smash into me with your car, or drive through my house, or use your car to rob a bank, transport drugs, or traffic human slaves.
So since you're not using it for CRIME or to hurt people (like other people do), you should keep your license and your car.
It's not really a RIGHT to own a car, like the right to bear arms; it's a privilege, but it's your right to own property, and it's your right even if I don't LIKE you having a car because I think it's dangerous for you to have one.
Do you weave in and out of traffic, drive fast, ride other cars' bumpers, bring aggression and hostility to the road, act like you "own" the road, think you're the "best driver" on the road, endanger other people, ignore traffic laws, cut people off, or use your vehicle for criminal behavior?
If you said "yes" to any of the above, I want you off the road, you're a direct danger to all the other people on the road, as sure as you're pointing a loaded gun but saying "Oh I'm not really gonna shoot it."
I'm personally much more terrified of people who drive cars on the same road as me than most of the people I know who own guns.
An irresponsible owner of either one is a danger to everyone around them.
Who's with me for CAR CONTROL?
NOT joking.
If you're taking Gun Control seriously, then you should take Car Control a lot more seriously.
A LOT MORE violent criminals own cars and endanger others with them every day than own guns.
It's not even a "Right", and it should already be regulated much more strictly than it is.
The only reason it's NOT is because those who like to regulate and control things don't want to have restrictions put on THEM about irresponsible vehicle usage and ownership.
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