The list of rules that the sociopath/narcissist expects his /her target to live by...
1. I can say anything I like. You are not allowed to say anything
unless you are sure it will not offend me. (Hint: Praise/compliments). 2. I can do anything I want. You are not allowed to do anything unless you are sure I will like it. 3. You must call me regularly to see how I am and give me attention. I never have to call you, unless I need something. 4. You have to respect me. I do not have to respect you. And I don’t. 5. I am allowed to lie about you. You are not allowed to tell the truth about me. 6. I am allowed to lie about you, to make you look bad. You MUST lie about me, to make me look GOOD. 7. I am the only one allowed to get angry. You are not allowed to get angry. 8. I am the only one allowed to have “hurt feelings.” You are not allowed to have hurt feelings. 9. I am the only one allowed to feel “insulted.” You are not allowed to feel insulted.
10. I can falsely accuse you of doing things you never did, and you are
not allowed to make a liar out of me by defending yourself. 11. You
are not allowed to expose me and reveal the things I really DID do. You
must cover up what I do and say and keep it a secret. 12. You are never allowed to complain. That’s MY job. 13. You are never allowed to confront me. I’m the only one who is allowed to confront anybody. 14. I can make faces at you, scowl, roll my eyes, and sneer, but you’d better not look at me “funny,” or even smile at me. 15. I can stop speaking to you, but you are not allowed to stop speaking to me. 16. I can disown you, but you do not have the right to walk away from me.
17. When I’m ready un-disown you, you have to take me back and start
talking to me again, with no further discussion of whatever caused our
“rift.” You have no choice in the matter. I am the only one who has a
choice. 18. I can “vent” to other people about you, but you must suffer in silence. 19. I can tell everybody the things you “did to” me, but you are not allowed to tell anybody the things I did to you. 20. You are not allowed to have any opinion that differs from mine. 21. You must agree with everything I say, but I am allowed to criticize and degrade the things you say.
22. I have no sense of humor when it comes to me. You must take me very
seriously, but I am allowed to mock you and even laugh in your face. 23. If you don’t know why I’m mad, you better figure it out, because I’m not going to tell you.
24. If another person upsets me, you’d BETTER take my side and confront
and shun them. If another person upsets YOU, good for them. You deserve
it. 25. I know everything, you know nothing. 26. You are weak and inferior. I am a superior being, and you must always acknowledge that and never forget your place. 27. You have no freedom to even think independently. I have all the freedom.
28. Your job is to take care of my needs and feelings. You are not
allowed to have needs or feelings. If you do, then take care of them
yourself and don’t expect anything from me. 29. You have no rights. I have all the rights.
30. You are here to do for me, I am not here to do for you. You are
only here for my convenience. When you are no longer useful or become
too much trouble, I will kick you to the curb. Until I want something
from you again.