SING! DANCE! MAKE PEOPLE LAUGH BECAUSE YOU FEEL LIKE IT!

Use the talents you may possess: the woods would be silent if no birds sang there
except those who sang best. —Henry Van Dyke

And do not discourage a bird to sing, just because you are arrogant and only want to hear the song of the lark. The bird was born to sing, and you were not born to silence her. Go busy your mouth with something more productive than insulting another. --- Marianne Black

Are You Done Talking Yet

A red flag of Narcissistic people is how they lose interest in the conversation with you when they no longer like the subject. They were not engaged in talking WITH YOU, they were engaged in receiving the attention they were looking for FROM you. As soon as you start talking about something they don't find interesting or find uncomfortable, they will suddenly fade away~ they have to go, or there's...

something else going on, or they have a pain in their leg, or they're tired, any reason to end the conversation. Sometimes they will even make an announcement that the conversation is over, as if they are your authority; either way, if they are being passive-aggressive, or outright rude, they are asserting control over you, and showing that their conversation with you had nothing really to do with their interest in a reciprocal connection. They don't want to hear what you have to say unless they LIKE what you are saying, and agree with it; its not about a connection with you.

They don't know that non-narcissistic people like to have reciprocal conversations, that they enjoy hearing the thoughts and opinions and observations of people they know. They often don't know that differing points of view are GOOD, and not cause for enmity, but actually build connection between people.

Relationship With A Narcissist

You will not ever have a "real" relationship with a person who has Narcissism. They will always live inside their own life, and will not integrate with you. Your life and personhood is not "real" to them, it is not nearly as significant as theirs. Your experiences, your life, your past, your knowledge, wisdom, your aspirations, needs, desires, passion, laughter, hopes, dreams, heart, and soul are ...

no more real to them then if they had watched it on a brief TV documentary about you.

The reason they can not connect is because they don't see anything outside of their own box as being "Real". They built that fort many years ago, and they brought their favorite things in it, and that's the world to them. Their family might be built into it, sometimes even a buddy, usually from childhood or adolescence. But that's it.

If they really want or have to go somewhere, they will put wheels on it, but they won't come out. They see no need to, the real world is inside their sanctuary; you are not "real" unless you come inside; but then, you are assimilated into the rest of the things that are under the N's control.

Continue along with that metaphor for a moment. How do you think the N person would act toward a toy in their collection that came to life, and had their own ideas on how to live? What would happen if that toy wanted to redecorate even a small portion of the fort, or bring in a pet, or go out into the world on an adventure? Would the N person go along with the toy, or would they simply tell it "no", and punish it if it took the initiative anyway? How would the N person feel about the toy having other friends in a normal way, inviting them into the fort, going out to do things with them? Would the N want to go with them, or would the N feel embarrassed about being seen cavorting with a bunch of toys?

The N believes that they are in full control over others, not unlike a child who pretends with dolls. The world only exists as their own version, and anything outside their version is just "wrong".

Kim Cooper has found a way to cure Narcissism, but the task of getting a Narcissist to actually DO anything at all, especially that he or she doesn't feel rewarded for in some way (think ego) is nearly impossible. You can see what it looks like if you want:      
Narcissism Cured