Only Fools Fall For "Women Are Crazy"

The most popular way to destroy a female's reputation, and thereby weaken or remove normal support networks made up of friends, family, acquaintances and coworkers, is to imply that she is emotionally unstable. It also helps to block future career and social success. ("You're reputation precedes you" is usually a true statement). This tactic has worked well for eons, so well that it has become nearly invisible; people are so used to it. All one has to do is point out something random about a female and declare it to be evidence of instability.

Pretty much anything will work; if the woman likes to cook a lot, she's obsessed with cooking, and she gets her identity from it (it's not just something she likes to do, and she's good at it.) If she loves animals and rescues strays and wild animals, (and she doesn't have a veterinary degree), she is obsessed with them, and it must be filling a hole because she doesn't have enough children... If she's a writer, or an artist, she is a "wanna-be" or she's "out there", until of course she starts making serious money with it, and then suddenly everyone wants to be her friend, and they all knew she would make it one day... (This is the point where she moves far away from all the people who did NOT support her and called her crazy behind her back, and made it much more difficult for her to find success.) If she studies science, she's "eccentric", or "weird". Etc, etc. Oh! And let's not forget the way she does her hair, the amount of make-up she wears (or doesn't wear), what her fingernails look like, the heels on her shoes, the clothes she wears, and whether she's married, single, has kids, doesn't have kids... and ANYTHING she likes to talk about, or what she does for recreation. Anything at all... can be misconstrued, magnified, twisted, and turned into something that it's not, in order to turn it into evidence of her "instability".

EVEN surviving an ordeal can be skewed for this yucky purpose... "Look what she's been through, she's 'all used up', 'loopy', 'neurotic'," etc. Not "Look what she's been through, what a strong person, and maybe we should listen to what she says since she's experienced things that we haven't".

Easy easy to do this to females, since most males want to be seen as the more stable gender, so they'll throw their own sister or wife under this bus just to be compared as the "stable one". And everyone is well aware of how competitive females can be, so using "she's crazy" against another female is quick and easy. People swallow it like M&M's. (Oh look at the crazy girl! Now we can use her as a dumping ground for all our gossip compulsions, we don't have to worry about our men looking at her or leaving us for her, and we can blame her for our bad feelings and anything that goes wrong in our lives whenever we feel like it, and no one will question it, or stand up for her! Also, we now have an excuse to dismiss anything and everything she says and does if we don't like it!) If you are actually a real friend, this is not something you would do. But if you go around trying to make yourself look sane, stable, and innocent by telling everyone your female friend/partner/relative is "unstable", then you are not now, and never have been, a real friend. And you should not be surprised when that person stops talking to you, and has to move away because their support network is not only destroyed, but works against them. When you spread rumors about a person, or implications about their mental or emotional stability, it spreads like a virus. People who get off on trashing other people take that ball and run with it, and pass it to anyone who will listen. When you imply that a person is crazy (especially when they're not, but you are trying to fit in with people who have control and gossip issues) you will obliterate their credibility and destroy their prospects of success and happiness. It is a sick and cruel thing to do. Most people have no idea how easy it is to do to someone, or how impossible it is to repair the damage once it's been done.

Narcissistic Conditioning

Narcissistic people condition their targets to believe that they don't "fit in" with the rest of the population, that they aren't good enough to be accepted by "normal" people. Once this conditioning takes hold in the mind of the target, once they start to believe that they are not entitled to feel like a real and valued member of the local community, family, or global community, they then respond to Bully Tactics from outside sources. The kid who is bulled and dismissed at home is also the target of abuse by the bullies on the outside. This has a domino effect, and everywhere this person goes now, because of the original conditioning, they will be targeted by the bullies in the new group. The original conditioning is what causes them to respond to the bullying with anxiety, avoidance, or hostile reaction (Narcs KNOW this, that's why they do it~ to make the target react in some way. If they can get the target to NOT SHOW UP, or to DISPLAY ANGER or ANXIETY, then they have accomplished their goal.) It is important to know that Narc bullies don't give up when they have lost the battle, they will continue to target a person until they have won their war. They don't know any other way to operate, they are the kings and queens of drama. Those who expose them are not drama kings or queens, but the Narc will accuse them of it (of course) until they can either get the person to stop exposing them by bullying that person, or get everyone to stop listening to the person by destroying their credibility (talk about how crazy and dramatic that person is, point to things that person does that are, in reality, perfectly normal, but the Narc twists until it looks crazy). ALL Narcs are bullies to some degree, all narcs try to run the show, all narcs try to convince others that they are innocent and stable, and that someone else is not. Those who have attributes that bullies are jealous of are targeted ANYWAY, so when there is a Narcissist bully in the home, that bully's focus will be mostly the SAME as the bullies on the outside of the home. So a person who has been conditioned to Narc bullying in the home will be a Narc bully victim for the rest of their lives, until they find a way to heal and recover; it usually takes professional help, since it is a form of brainwashing, and it is reinforced every time a new Narc shows up. Narc abuse often causes PTSD, which contributes greatly to conditioning.