They Are Weak, I Am Strong

Judging others as emotionally and mentally "weak" is a sign of  narcissism, and usually correlates with judging one's self to be very stable, grounded, responsible, and logical, and therefore in no need of self-examination. Unfortunately, these individuals are often the ones most in need of self-review because they are actually hiding from their own past and their own emotions.
Healing is quite possible, but only for those who are willing. They also need to be careful to discern who is actually capable of counseling them. People who suffer from narcissism issues may choose those who exacerbate their symptoms instead of helping them, because they tend to trust and admire only those who they identify as naturally superior, which can mean absolutely anything. They might get lucky and find  someone with humility and real wisdom, but they might also follow someone who aspires only to money and reputation, with no real wisdom at all, just because the person makes them feel good, or looks like their image of a wise person.

Pretend And Narcissism

If as a child you used to set up stuffed animals, action figures, and dolls as your companions at a party, or as the audience for your show, or as any other stand-in for human feedback, you've experienced both sides of a Narcissism dynamic as both the Target and the Narcissist.
There is no circular, neutral, reality-based feedback or connection dynamic between a Narcissist and a Target.

So if the child who's having a party with action figures or stuffed animals as attendees is getting about the same amount of genuine connection as he or she would if they were alive, but Narcissists. The child has to pretend and imagine that they're happy to be there in the child's company, that they're enjoying themselves, that they're talking with the child and one another (about topics other than gossip, other than shooting ridicule or criticism), that they're actually listening to one another politely, and responding to one another genuinely and with good cheer.
It's not real; since there is no real connection, the child's imagination takes over and fills in the blanks. Because of the child's vivid imagination, the wonderful imaginary traits of each doll seems real, and the child can grow to love them. But the child doesn't realize that the personalities are from his or her own mind. Targets receive little or no genuine connection, and the human imagination fills in the blanks in order to make the situation more pleasant and less painful.
We NEED connection as human animals, so when we don't actually get it, we tend to create it where it doesn't really exist, or embellish and add rosewater to weak or unhealthy connections.

With the child in the position of Narcissist, this is how he or she sees others; as dolls that one projects one's own imagination onto. The way the doll looks to the child is the imagined personality they're going to be assigned. Dolls that the child likes get treated well, dolls that the child doesn't like get punished. The reasons that the child likes a certain doll are made-up, based on the child's imagination, and the reasons that the child "punishes" certain dolls are also made-up, again, based in the child's imagination. The child in the Narcissist position feels completely entitled to dictate and orchestrate literally everything that the dolls do or say, and of course, because they're dolls, they're not "real", like the child is. There is no reason for the child to listen to their points of view, to care about their needs, their feelings, their plans, aspirations, or anything else. Their sole purpose is to be whatever the child wants them to be, and do whatever the child wants them to do. Nothing else. They don't have the "right" to do anything else, or anything on their own; they're DOLLS.
The only other "real" person that would exist would be if Mom or Dad walk into the room, because they're "authority" figures, bigger than the child, and have more power.
The day that the child notices that one of them treats the other as a "lesser being" is the day the child (in the Narcissist position) will lose respect for the bullied parent, and try to emulate the bully. So then only the bully parent is "real" and the other becomes a doll.

Finding Your Diamond Self


Finding Your Diamond Self: Confident and Empowered!



http://lovein90days.com/finding-your-diamond-self-confident-empowered/

Hipster Sexism; Just As Asinine As All The Other Kinds Of Bigotry

While actually sexist, of course, hipster sexism is different from what Quart defines as "Classic Sexism." A hipster sexist calls you a bitch and tells you to shut up but in a funny way, while a classic sexist tells you your rape was God's will without a hint of irony. Both are douchebags, but the hipster sexist is a douchebag in enlightened clothing...

 http://bitchmagazine.org/post/hipster-sexism-is-sexist-feminist-magazine-irony-culture-racism-sexism


Cynthia Chase On Healing From The Inside Out

Recovery From Narcissism Traits

A lot of people with other illnesses also have Narcissism traits that go along with their underlying issues. Including but not limited to PTSD. These traits and behaviors may serve the purpose of "protecting" the person's very fragile self from the harsh outside world. However when the person is in a safe place and is seeking recovery, the Narcissism traits can keep coming back when they're triggered for any reason, for "good" reasons or for "bad" reasons, and can delay and inhibit recovery a great deal.
It would be very helpful for a person to find a grounded and objective therapist and/or healer to help them along in their recovery. Really, it's a lot to ask from friends, partners, and family to be one's main support in recovery; they are personally connected, and will suffer from the bouts of Narcissistic reactions and behaviors. It's important to have support, and someone to act as a neutral feedback mirror/sounding board outside of one's personal circle (whether one has Narc. traits or not).
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