No matter how much you help, how much you
give, how long you listen, how many things you do, how hard you work, it
will never get through to a person with Narcissism. They need you to be
the self-centered one, the petty one, the dumb one, the crazy one, and
you can not do anything to prove otherwise, ever. You could become a nun
or a priest, go on a mission and succeed in saving the entire contin...ent
of Africa from tyranny and starvation, and they would still see you in
the same exact light. You see, anything about you that is not about
them, any attention you pay that is not to them, anything you do that
doesn't serve them, they will always see as you're "wrongdoing". You
could listen to them talk about their problems for 5 hours, literally,
and they won't notice; but the moment you bring something up about
yourself, even for a minute, their alarm goes off. They don't actually
see reality, they see a construct of their own imagination, created to
make them feel better about themselves. It will not change, ever, so let
it go, put your focus on the world beyond them. It's still there, even
if they have convinced you that it's not, and you're still a full
member, you belong, even if they have convinced you that you never did.
You really, really, really do.
