The choice between true, wild, unbridled, passionate love and settling for a life with a financially stable partner with whom I love but am not "in love" with? Its a choice between flying or being tied to a 100lb weight for the rest of the days here on Earth.
I would see my children follow me in flight before I would lead them to look for gold rocks to tie themselves to, just so they can sail on someone else's boat, and always wonder about their own worth.
"If you aren't good at loving yourself, you will have a difficult time loving anyone, since you'll resent the time and energy you give another person that you aren't even giving to yourself."
--Barbara De Angelis