You know that feeling of "she's not paying attention to me or giving me positive vibes, so that means she's stuck up" or.. "she's not agreeing that I'm right when I tell her she's wrong, so that means she's a bitch" or... "she gets annoyed when I don't treat her with the same respect I treat others with, so that means she's a prima dona", or "she is acting sad, angry, or depressed, so that means she's just trying to get attention" ? That feeling is from inside your own head, that's not coming from her. Or him, as the case may be. Our unexamined prejudices tell us how to interpret the actions of others. If I have bias against men, I will see and hear things a given man says and does through a negative filter. I will believe that this negative filter is objective reality. I will interpret everything a man does as being either silly, dumb, crazy, unstable, pointless, useless, or annoying. I will assume I ALREADY KNOW his "LIMITS" of talent, learning, physical strength, and intelligence. I will not assign importance to the things he says or does, and if I am prone to aggression, I will insult him, argue with him, and accuse him of doing things "wrong", or "faking" things, or having an agenda. If he makes an observation, I will not listen to his point of view, especially if I don't already agree with it. I will see all of his points of view as uneducated, unintelligent, unenlightened, and ignorant. I will see all of his hopes and dreams as ridiculous pipe dreams, and I will see little or no potential in his future. I will believe that he CAN'T learn how to do lots of things, even if he tried very hard. I will not show him the same manners and integrity I show those whom I am not biased against. I will make sure he sees that I am not showing him these manners, in order to send him a message that he is "below" me. I will not respect him, support him, promote him, or help him, and I will not protect him from even the most severe disrespect, unless I am afraid of consequences for myself. I will stand back and let others walk all over him. I will feel annoyed if he defends himself or talks about the treatment he receives, I will not see his point of view, because he annoys me anyway, because everything he says and does is being viewed through the filter of my bias against him. When he speaks, I am immediately annoyed. Even if he says and does exactly the same things as a person I greatly admire, I will STILL see all of those things as dumb, pointless, and annoying, because HE did and said them. I will not be aware of my bias against him, my negative filter that I watch him through, and I will refuse to look at it, because I don't want to remove it. I'm used to it, and it makes me feel normal. Everyone I grew up with wears the same filter, I won't be rejected by them if I keep wearing it, so I would rather wear it and be the same as them, than take it off and be different, and risk losing their approval. I will not care how my negative bias against him affects him, it will not bother me; the only thing that will bother me is HIM, his annoying yabbering about "unfair treatment". The moment he does anything to show others that he is NOT lesser than I am, I will go after him and knock him down, back down to where I like him to be. " I will not simply leave him alone, either; I enjoy watching him through this bias filter, it makes me believe that there is always someone who is lesser than I am. As long as I have others around me who also wear the same negative filter, they will all continue to pretend along with me, and I can continue to live through my prejudice. I never will have to look directly at reality. That entry was about anti-male bias, or prejudice against men. Anti-white bias or Anti-black bias can be substituted for "male" and the entire entry still applies. You can substitute any bias, it is all basically the same. To see how that works, substitute the word "female" for "male", "woman" for "man", and "her" for "him". Prejudice is a filter we ALL wear, some have more than others, some less, but those who refuse to look are prone to believe that what they see through these filters is actually real.