When I am upset with someone about their lack
of friendship, support, or respect toward me, the first thing I ask is
"how much friendship, support, or respect have I shown them, really and
truly? What is the actual history, and not just the one in my head right
now?" After enough soul searching, a clearer picture is usually
revealed. Sometimes it shows that I am expecting more from them than I give,
or forgetting the support they have given me. Sometimes it shows that
they are just living their life with no ill intention toward anyone, and
I am just feeling overwhelmed. Still, sometimes it shows that I am
expecting friendship from a person who has already shown that they're
not capable of friendship, support, or respect, or that they haven't
shown any of these things toward me specifically, only toward others.
Whatever the picture reveals, it is closer to reality which helps me to better navigate my surroundings and relationships, and manage my feelings.
Whatever the picture reveals, it is closer to reality which helps me to better navigate my surroundings and relationships, and manage my feelings.
