Strangers and acquaintances do not treat you with either respect or disrespect because of "who you really are". There's no way for them to know "who you really are", so don't believe you are wonderful or awful just because of the way you get treated by other people. Humans respond to the way THEY FEEL, not the way YOU ACTUALLY ARE. Even people you've known for a long time don't necessarily know "who you really are", so when they treat you like you're wonderful or like you're awful, it's really a reflection of their own internal emotional reactions. You might actually be wonderful or awful, but it's just as likely that you're not, and most likely it's that you're both at the same time, like everyone else.