we want to date an eccentric, a different race, a person of a different
political party or religion, or a female human, we are volunteering to
defend them from our prejudice friends, acquaintances, and family, and
probably random strangers as well. We should be prepared to find out
things we did not know about those around us. If we don't want to do
that, if it's too stressful and too much to stand up for the person we
are asking to be our "number one", then we shouldn't date them in the
If we marry this person, we are volunteering to defend them for life.