Successful And Happy?

Wonder which kind of community or family flourishes~ (more people are more successful and happy)~ the ones where all the people in it are supportive of each other, or the kind where people in it are always looking for ways to condemn each other in order to make themselves feel better? The ones where people see all the other people in it as valuable as themselves, or the ones where people look for reasons to devalue others? Hmmm... support - condemn...support , condemn... gosh I can't figure it out, the two are so similar... Which kind of community or family would I want to live in... gosh that's a tough one too...
.
.