For
God's sake put away that stupid "tough love" book, most people have no
idea what it means or when it's appropriate, or why, or how. "LOVE"
means you care about the person, as in CARE about the person, as in
CARE.
Um... criticizing a person, bossing them around, judging them, shaming them, chastising or threatening them, or putting them on the street when they're struggling or too young to take care of themselves is not "helping" or "being supportive", and no, it's not being "real" or "being a good friend". It's just control freak bully behavior, shaking a finger at someone makes a lot of people feel important.
Um... criticizing a person, bossing them around, judging them, shaming them, chastising or threatening them, or putting them on the street when they're struggling or too young to take care of themselves is not "helping" or "being supportive", and no, it's not being "real" or "being a good friend". It's just control freak bully behavior, shaking a finger at someone makes a lot of people feel important.
