You might be a narcissist if... you often try to paint others, especially your own family members, as "lazy", "crazy", or "good for nothing", and your hope is that whoever you talk to will think of them as a bad person whom they should avoid, a burdensome person in your life, and feel sorry for you. The narcissist does not seek help for their relationships, or to repair rifts, or gain understanding; they seek to destroy the reputations of certain others, and to cause pain and damage. They seek to be the one who is seen as the "good" one, the "innocent" one, compared to their target who they paint as the "bad" one, the "dysfunctional" one. We can tell we have been duped by a narcissist when we think of one of our own family members (or friends, coworkers, neighbors...) as a lazy, wasteful, self-absorbed person, with no real evidence for ourselves except the stories we've been told, and also when we feel superior toward the person. When we find that everything we hear about the person or see them do (or post on Facebook) is added to our own collection of "evidence" against that person, but we are not looking for positive evidence to contradict that old story or show that they are a "good" person, we know we have swallowed the hook.
What Does A Narcissist Look Like?
You might be a narcissist if... you often try to paint others, especially your own family members, as "lazy", "crazy", or "good for nothing", and your hope is that whoever you talk to will think of them as a bad person whom they should avoid, a burdensome person in your life, and feel sorry for you. The narcissist does not seek help for their relationships, or to repair rifts, or gain understanding; they seek to destroy the reputations of certain others, and to cause pain and damage. They seek to be the one who is seen as the "good" one, the "innocent" one, compared to their target who they paint as the "bad" one, the "dysfunctional" one. We can tell we have been duped by a narcissist when we think of one of our own family members (or friends, coworkers, neighbors...) as a lazy, wasteful, self-absorbed person, with no real evidence for ourselves except the stories we've been told, and also when we feel superior toward the person. When we find that everything we hear about the person or see them do (or post on Facebook) is added to our own collection of "evidence" against that person, but we are not looking for positive evidence to contradict that old story or show that they are a "good" person, we know we have swallowed the hook.
