When someone with Control Issues sees a person acting confidently, they often assess the person in their mind to be "someone to follow", "someone to engulf", "someone to dominate", "someone to shut out", or "someone to shut down".
They don't seem to know that they are not entitled to do any of these things to others. A lack of awareness of boundaries, of their own and of others, is a common denominator.
Since the Controller personality believes their own assessments of others right from the get-go, based on very limited "parameters" and very little information, they often act immediately on their assessments.
This is why bullies pick on certain kids, and often end up getting their teeth knocked out. Their assessment of the other kid was incorrect, because their confidence in their assessment of others is much, much higher than their actual skill.
They don't seem to know that they are not entitled to do any of these things to others. A lack of awareness of boundaries, of their own and of others, is a common denominator.
Since the Controller personality believes their own assessments of others right from the get-go, based on very limited "parameters" and very little information, they often act immediately on their assessments.
This is why bullies pick on certain kids, and often end up getting their teeth knocked out. Their assessment of the other kid was incorrect, because their confidence in their assessment of others is much, much higher than their actual skill.
