We all reach adulthood in age and body whether we actually matured or not. Most of us bring many of our childhood assumptions and judgments about others with us, and forget to grow out of them for one reason or another. Sometimes, hopefully, we catch ourselves and have a V8 moment of "wow, I've been thinking that way and didn't even realize it!"
Some of these misperceptions and beliefs that some of us actually truly believe, and live lives by, include:
>The appearance and looks of a person reflects who and what they are inside.
>A person is easy to figure out after meeting them once or twice.
>Women who are "beautiful" think about sex, and must have sex.
(basic projection; when A finds B sexy, A imagines that B finds herself sexy too, and therefore believes that B thinks about sex like A does. A could be male or female.)
>Men who are "beautiful" are all players.
(envy and projection; C imagines that if he were as good looking as D, that's what he would be doing, and would be able to "get away with it".Also jealousy: E imagines that D would never be attracted to her and feels resentment, so she creates a negative profile of D in her mind.) )
>When a woman smiles at a man, or acts friendly, it's because she's sexually attracted to him.
>Ability and intelligence are based on height.
>Ability and intelligence are based on gender.
>Women have only a fraction of the body strength that men have.
>Men are natural leaders, women are natural followers.
>All women are very similar mentally.
>All men are very similar mentally.
>All men are physically stronger than all women, automatically, and are born with a natural ability to build and repair things, which women are not born with.
>All women are physically weaker but more graceful than all men, automatically, and are born with a natural ability to nurture and care for others, which men are not born with.
>All Caucasians are very similar to one another.
>All Africans are very similar to one another.
>All Asians are very similar to one another.
>(Etc.)
>Beauty and good looks are seen the same way by everyone. If I think a woman is beautiful, that means everyone else does, too. If I think a man is unattractive, that means everyone else does, too.
>Taller and bigger people are better leaders, and more grown-up.
(This is a childhood imprint left-over; adults are taller and bigger, and are the leaders who make things happen and control the resources. That feeling of "whoever is tall or big is an adult" gets imprinted and remains into adulthood)
>Shorter and smaller people are more child-like, and it's okay to boss them around and invade their space.
(Also a childhood imprint left-over; anyone who is shorter than me is younger than me, and is therefore a child, and therefore has less experience, maturity, and authority than I do. And, it is okay to pick up a child, take things away from a child, condescend to a child, and invade their space.)
>Short men have "short man's complex".
>Tall men aren't as bright.
>Short women are like children, and not very strong, and don't have the same rights as other people, and it's okay to treat them with less respect.
>Tall women are stuck-up, bitchy, and like to boss men around.
>Tall women and tall men are automatically beautiful and more attractive, and everyone thinks so.
>All men are attracted to small women, and also women with large breasts.
>All women want men who are rich, or who are physically strong and "tough".
>All women like the same things, and don't like "man" stuff.
>All men like the same things, and don't like "woman" stuff.
>EVERYTHING is divided into "Man Stuff" and "Women Stuff".
>Marijuana is the devil.
>Marijuana is not a drug and has zero ill side effects.
>College degrees indicate intelligence, not having a college degree indicates lower intelligence and lack of capability.
There are of course many more, but all of them are based on a kind of black and white thinking, or "pink and blue" thinking. Young children will often rate an attractive teacher as "nicer" than an older or less attractive teacher on the first day of school, before they have had any interaction with either teacher. Adults will vote for the taller candidate and promote the taller applicant. You can probably find examples of this kind of perceptual immaturity right in your own home, maybe even in yourself and didn't realize it. These are basically snips of childhood that we didn't grow out of for one reason or another, and sometimes nothing big enough happens to shake our tree and make us realize we were thinking this way.
But, some people are INVESTED in these beliefs and perceptions; they came to see the world this way and felt SAFE at some point, so they KEPT these pocket beliefs, HELD ON to them, and simply decided to stay there. They may have even been taught these things by adults who were emotionally invested in this way.
M.M.Black
Some of these misperceptions and beliefs that some of us actually truly believe, and live lives by, include:
>The appearance and looks of a person reflects who and what they are inside.
>A person is easy to figure out after meeting them once or twice.
>Women who are "beautiful" think about sex, and must have sex.
(basic projection; when A finds B sexy, A imagines that B finds herself sexy too, and therefore believes that B thinks about sex like A does. A could be male or female.)
>Men who are "beautiful" are all players.
(envy and projection; C imagines that if he were as good looking as D, that's what he would be doing, and would be able to "get away with it".Also jealousy: E imagines that D would never be attracted to her and feels resentment, so she creates a negative profile of D in her mind.) )
>When a woman smiles at a man, or acts friendly, it's because she's sexually attracted to him.
>Ability and intelligence are based on height.
>Ability and intelligence are based on gender.
>Women have only a fraction of the body strength that men have.
>Men are natural leaders, women are natural followers.
>All women are very similar mentally.
>All men are very similar mentally.
>All men are physically stronger than all women, automatically, and are born with a natural ability to build and repair things, which women are not born with.
>All women are physically weaker but more graceful than all men, automatically, and are born with a natural ability to nurture and care for others, which men are not born with.
>All Caucasians are very similar to one another.
>All Africans are very similar to one another.
>All Asians are very similar to one another.
>(Etc.)
>Beauty and good looks are seen the same way by everyone. If I think a woman is beautiful, that means everyone else does, too. If I think a man is unattractive, that means everyone else does, too.
>Taller and bigger people are better leaders, and more grown-up.
(This is a childhood imprint left-over; adults are taller and bigger, and are the leaders who make things happen and control the resources. That feeling of "whoever is tall or big is an adult" gets imprinted and remains into adulthood)
>Shorter and smaller people are more child-like, and it's okay to boss them around and invade their space.
(Also a childhood imprint left-over; anyone who is shorter than me is younger than me, and is therefore a child, and therefore has less experience, maturity, and authority than I do. And, it is okay to pick up a child, take things away from a child, condescend to a child, and invade their space.)
>Short men have "short man's complex".
>Tall men aren't as bright.
>Short women are like children, and not very strong, and don't have the same rights as other people, and it's okay to treat them with less respect.
>Tall women are stuck-up, bitchy, and like to boss men around.
>Tall women and tall men are automatically beautiful and more attractive, and everyone thinks so.
>All men are attracted to small women, and also women with large breasts.
>All women want men who are rich, or who are physically strong and "tough".
>All women like the same things, and don't like "man" stuff.
>All men like the same things, and don't like "woman" stuff.
>EVERYTHING is divided into "Man Stuff" and "Women Stuff".
>Marijuana is the devil.
>Marijuana is not a drug and has zero ill side effects.
>College degrees indicate intelligence, not having a college degree indicates lower intelligence and lack of capability.
There are of course many more, but all of them are based on a kind of black and white thinking, or "pink and blue" thinking. Young children will often rate an attractive teacher as "nicer" than an older or less attractive teacher on the first day of school, before they have had any interaction with either teacher. Adults will vote for the taller candidate and promote the taller applicant. You can probably find examples of this kind of perceptual immaturity right in your own home, maybe even in yourself and didn't realize it. These are basically snips of childhood that we didn't grow out of for one reason or another, and sometimes nothing big enough happens to shake our tree and make us realize we were thinking this way.
But, some people are INVESTED in these beliefs and perceptions; they came to see the world this way and felt SAFE at some point, so they KEPT these pocket beliefs, HELD ON to them, and simply decided to stay there. They may have even been taught these things by adults who were emotionally invested in this way.
M.M.Black
