Sexism is a big issue for many narcissists, both female and male, and it can take different forms, but it's always about identity.
One might think of themselves as "uber male" and do everything they can think of to prove to the world that that's what they are, the ultimate GUY. But their target audience might be male, or it might be female, or it might be both, it depends on the individual, and what they think being the "ultimate GUY" actually means. They are usually trying hard to get the attention, approval, and acceptance of their own sex, but trying to be sexually attractive to the opposite sex (but not caring about acceptance or approval from them, and not giving it either).
Another one might think of themselves as "Ultra Feminine" and do the same thing as the above said "uber male", in female terms, doing everything they can think of to prove that they're the ultimate Woman, according to whatever they think that means.
Narcissists often believe that everyone has the same picture of "ultimate male" or "ultimate female" in their heads, so that alleviates their wondering about what other people think of them, they are ON IT! They KNOW what other people think of them, they are IT.
So if you're the ultimate female, then all the other females are BELOW you, aren't they? Your uber femaleness holds your spotlight in place all the time.
If you're the ultimate male, then all the other males just can't measure up, can they? Your ultra maleness shines brighter than all the stars in the sky.
And the opposite sex doesn't have a CHANCE! When you walk by, they are instantly enamored with you, and if they AREN'T hypnotized by your magnificence, or your magnetic and glowing sweetness and down to earth humility..., they are either STUPID, or STUCK UP. In fact, pretty much anyone who doesn't look UP to you, or give you signals that they find you very attractive is an IDIOT. In fact, pretty much anyone who is SMALLER than you, or not as "polished", or not as well spoken, or not as well off, or younger, or older, or doesn't have the same skills or credentials as you, or makes any kind of visible mistake, or appears the least bit cautious, shy, or anxious HAS to be a lower kind of person, and so they should automatically be acknowledging you for the higher status human that you are!
Anyone who doesn't get treated with high and loud "respect" by others, anyone who people don't listen to, or laugh at all their jokes, anyone who people don't put up on a Super Cool or Super Wise pedestal, anyone who people ignore or gossip about is of course one of those "lower status" people as well.
So, that whole list is most females, and many males. So that means most females are lesser than you, and several males are as well.
Which means that females in general are lesser humans, and some males are also lesser humans.
SO, the male Narcissist is usually male biased and identifies with being male, because the culture they live in is male biased, so there's no discrepancy for them between their actual sex and their feeling of supremacy. They don't have to change their physical identity to feel superior, they already ARE superior... all they have to do is show off their greatness!
The FEMALE Narcissist, on the other hand, who lives in a male-biased culture, has to be the "exception to the rule", she's ABOVE other women, she's BETTER than other women, she's the ONLY woman in the room who has her unique capabilities. She's the ultimate woman, and she can compete with men on "their level".
Narcissistic women often think men see them as "one of them", not as "one of those other silly, stupid women."
Since there is a large disparity in identity for Narc. women, they have to do more mental twisting and turning in order to keep their superior self-image. Narcissists WANT TO BE IDENTIFIED WITH THE GROUP THAT HAS MORE "POWER", so it's easier for males narcs in a male-biased culture; not so easy for female narcs.
Female Narcissists often end up being biased against other women, viciously bullying and competing with them, gossiping, backstabbing, and sabotaging, and going along with most male Narcissists in the same anti-female biases. Female Narcissists are often male-biased, because they identify themselves as being a member of the "power group" as they see it, and despise being thought of (like male Narcissists) as a member of a "lesser" group.
Of course no humans need to accept being seen or thought of as a lesser person due to race or gender, and being offended is a natural and healthy response. It's a ridiculous and immature culture that has such power imbalances. But the Narcissist female often actually creates a delusion that she is NOT really a member of the female sex, or that she is a member but she is an EXCEPTION, she's ABOVE the rest, and therefore treats other females much like a male Narcissist would treat them. As a lesser type of human.
*It doesn't matter what a Narcissist ACTUALLY looks like on the outside, this all takes place in their imaginations anyway. The gorgeous, "voluptuous" woman down the street with the great smile might NOT be a Narcissist at all, she might not even think she's that attractive, she might even think she's UN attractive and might be the nicest person in town, but the person at the office who very few people find physically attractive (or even charismatically) might have severe NPD and believe they are like a god.
One might think of themselves as "uber male" and do everything they can think of to prove to the world that that's what they are, the ultimate GUY. But their target audience might be male, or it might be female, or it might be both, it depends on the individual, and what they think being the "ultimate GUY" actually means. They are usually trying hard to get the attention, approval, and acceptance of their own sex, but trying to be sexually attractive to the opposite sex (but not caring about acceptance or approval from them, and not giving it either).
Another one might think of themselves as "Ultra Feminine" and do the same thing as the above said "uber male", in female terms, doing everything they can think of to prove that they're the ultimate Woman, according to whatever they think that means.
Narcissists often believe that everyone has the same picture of "ultimate male" or "ultimate female" in their heads, so that alleviates their wondering about what other people think of them, they are ON IT! They KNOW what other people think of them, they are IT.
So if you're the ultimate female, then all the other females are BELOW you, aren't they? Your uber femaleness holds your spotlight in place all the time.
If you're the ultimate male, then all the other males just can't measure up, can they? Your ultra maleness shines brighter than all the stars in the sky.
And the opposite sex doesn't have a CHANCE! When you walk by, they are instantly enamored with you, and if they AREN'T hypnotized by your magnificence, or your magnetic and glowing sweetness and down to earth humility..., they are either STUPID, or STUCK UP. In fact, pretty much anyone who doesn't look UP to you, or give you signals that they find you very attractive is an IDIOT. In fact, pretty much anyone who is SMALLER than you, or not as "polished", or not as well spoken, or not as well off, or younger, or older, or doesn't have the same skills or credentials as you, or makes any kind of visible mistake, or appears the least bit cautious, shy, or anxious HAS to be a lower kind of person, and so they should automatically be acknowledging you for the higher status human that you are!
Anyone who doesn't get treated with high and loud "respect" by others, anyone who people don't listen to, or laugh at all their jokes, anyone who people don't put up on a Super Cool or Super Wise pedestal, anyone who people ignore or gossip about is of course one of those "lower status" people as well.
So, that whole list is most females, and many males. So that means most females are lesser than you, and several males are as well.
Which means that females in general are lesser humans, and some males are also lesser humans.
SO, the male Narcissist is usually male biased and identifies with being male, because the culture they live in is male biased, so there's no discrepancy for them between their actual sex and their feeling of supremacy. They don't have to change their physical identity to feel superior, they already ARE superior... all they have to do is show off their greatness!
The FEMALE Narcissist, on the other hand, who lives in a male-biased culture, has to be the "exception to the rule", she's ABOVE other women, she's BETTER than other women, she's the ONLY woman in the room who has her unique capabilities. She's the ultimate woman, and she can compete with men on "their level".
Narcissistic women often think men see them as "one of them", not as "one of those other silly, stupid women."
Since there is a large disparity in identity for Narc. women, they have to do more mental twisting and turning in order to keep their superior self-image. Narcissists WANT TO BE IDENTIFIED WITH THE GROUP THAT HAS MORE "POWER", so it's easier for males narcs in a male-biased culture; not so easy for female narcs.
Female Narcissists often end up being biased against other women, viciously bullying and competing with them, gossiping, backstabbing, and sabotaging, and going along with most male Narcissists in the same anti-female biases. Female Narcissists are often male-biased, because they identify themselves as being a member of the "power group" as they see it, and despise being thought of (like male Narcissists) as a member of a "lesser" group.
Of course no humans need to accept being seen or thought of as a lesser person due to race or gender, and being offended is a natural and healthy response. It's a ridiculous and immature culture that has such power imbalances. But the Narcissist female often actually creates a delusion that she is NOT really a member of the female sex, or that she is a member but she is an EXCEPTION, she's ABOVE the rest, and therefore treats other females much like a male Narcissist would treat them. As a lesser type of human.
*It doesn't matter what a Narcissist ACTUALLY looks like on the outside, this all takes place in their imaginations anyway. The gorgeous, "voluptuous" woman down the street with the great smile might NOT be a Narcissist at all, she might not even think she's that attractive, she might even think she's UN attractive and might be the nicest person in town, but the person at the office who very few people find physically attractive (or even charismatically) might have severe NPD and believe they are like a god.
