Always Your Fault, Never Mine

A TARGET IS NEVER ALLOWED TO BE A VICTIM OF ANYTHING. ONLY THE NARC IS.

EVERYTHING THAT HAPPENS TO THE TARGET IS THE TARGET'S FAULT. ALWAYS.
NOTHING THAT HAPPENS TO THE NARC IS THE NARC'S FAULT. EVER.

THE NARC WILL NEVER FEEL SORRY OR FEEL CONCERN FOR A TARGET BECAUSE IT TAKES THE ATTENTION, THE SPECIAL CONCERN, AND THE SPOTLIGHT OFF OF THE NARC AND PUTS IT ON THE OTHER PERSON.

The Target will be blamed for everything that ever happens in their life; that way no one ever has to HELP them, or give them extra attention, or give them comfort or assistance, or risk their being "liked" by standing up for a target against disrespect or injustice.

If a Target is upset about something, it's because the Target is weak, stupid, emotional, unstable, or pathetic, and the Target should "just get over it and quit being so negative". If the Narc. is upset about the EXACT SAME THING in their own life, (even if it's only an hour later..) then suddenly it's an extremely important and legitimate complaint, a terrible thing, and everyone should listen, empathize, sympathize, and assist.

If the Target receives the wrong Fast Food order, it's NOT the Burger King staff's fault, it's because the Target didn't speak loudly or clearly enough...
But if the Narc. receives the wrong order, then it's ALWAYS the Burger King staff's fault. Even if it's the same BK, the very next day...

If the Target gets hit by another car, it's the Target's fault for being in the wrong place or driving "wrong", going too slow...
If the Narc runs into someone else with their car, it's ALWAYS the other driver's fault (they were going too slow, they weren't watching where they were going). If they run into an object, it was the object's fault. If they hit an animal, it was the animal's fault.

If the Target is betrayed, whether it's for love, money, or friendship, it's the Target's fault, always. SOMEHOW, something the Target did CAUSED the other person to BETRAY THEM.
So, the person (Narc) who didn't pay the Target back money they borrowed is NOT TO BLAME... it's the TARGET'S FAULT that he or she is out that money...
The person (Narc) who cheated on the Target is NOT TO BLAME...something the Target did or didn't do CAUSED the Narc to cheat...
The person (Narc) who backstabbed and slandered a Target is NOT TO BLAME, it was the Target who CAUSED them to slander and gossip...
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