Messages From God

This is from "Messages From God". It's very poignant to Control and Narcissism because this is one of the main things a Controller will try to undermine and control in a Target. After a while, they can successfully train a Target to undermine this in themselves:

"Today we believe God wants you to know that ...
there is a right time for each of the things you do.

If you try to live counter to your personal rhythms, you will expend more time and energy to get things done. Body and soul suffer when you force yourself to wrestle against your own rhythms. Listen to your rhythms and follow them."

Controllers/Narcissists try to make Targets abandon and reject their OWN "personal rhythms" and live around and cater to the CONTROLLER'S "personal rhythms".

The essence of Codependency.

Narcissistic abuse takes it a step further, trying to destroy the Target's sense of "personal rhythm" and "self" altogether, and REPLACE it with that of the Narcissist's.