Remember, a person who has Narcissism can't actually SEE you. They see and hear a made-up version of you, like a cartoon or a doll, or maybe a comic book character.
That's why they don't give you feedback that matches what you're saying or doing; they are not actually living in the same "world" that you're living in. They're living in a world that they've created, and you are a character in that world.
Your character can't ever have the LEAD ROLE, because THEY have the Lead Role in all scenes, even the ones they're not IN.
Your character is based on their imagination and how they want your character to FIT INTO THEIR WORLD, not on anything real about YOU.
They don't treat you like a real person because to a Narcissist, you're not. They are the one who "wrote" who and what you are! They don't need to FIND OUT anything about you...
They don't treat you with "respect" or CARE because you're not a "real person" (to them). More like a doll, like a GI JOE or a Barbie, or a TV character (pick a Brady Bunch character, or Little House on the Prairie... Bonanza... CSI... ER... or maybe General Hospital), or a character stereotype they like to talk about with their BUDDIES... or maybe you can be a pet, like a goldfish or a hamster. Whatever or whoever you kind of look like, whatever they can MATCH your appearance to is apparently who and what you ARE, and they will treat you according the character they've made of you FOREVER.
This is a COGNITION PROBLEM.
Narcissists typically can't discern their imagination from reality.
(Except for sociopaths who can, but don't care.)
Ever notice how Narcissists don't seem to remember much detail about you?
They keep treating you like you DON'T KNOW certain things, DON'T UNDERSTAND certain things, CAN'T DO certain things, or AREN'T CAPABLE of certain things?
Or keep treating you like your feelings, experiences, motives, and behaviors are completely different from what they really are?
>>>Because they don't CARE ABOUT details or FACTS about you. Not real ones anyway.
That's why they don't give you feedback that matches what you're saying or doing; they are not actually living in the same "world" that you're living in. They're living in a world that they've created, and you are a character in that world.
Your character can't ever have the LEAD ROLE, because THEY have the Lead Role in all scenes, even the ones they're not IN.
Your character is based on their imagination and how they want your character to FIT INTO THEIR WORLD, not on anything real about YOU.
They don't treat you like a real person because to a Narcissist, you're not. They are the one who "wrote" who and what you are! They don't need to FIND OUT anything about you...
They don't treat you with "respect" or CARE because you're not a "real person" (to them). More like a doll, like a GI JOE or a Barbie, or a TV character (pick a Brady Bunch character, or Little House on the Prairie... Bonanza... CSI... ER... or maybe General Hospital), or a character stereotype they like to talk about with their BUDDIES... or maybe you can be a pet, like a goldfish or a hamster. Whatever or whoever you kind of look like, whatever they can MATCH your appearance to is apparently who and what you ARE, and they will treat you according the character they've made of you FOREVER.
This is a COGNITION PROBLEM.
Narcissists typically can't discern their imagination from reality.
(Except for sociopaths who can, but don't care.)
Ever notice how Narcissists don't seem to remember much detail about you?
They keep treating you like you DON'T KNOW certain things, DON'T UNDERSTAND certain things, CAN'T DO certain things, or AREN'T CAPABLE of certain things?
Or keep treating you like your feelings, experiences, motives, and behaviors are completely different from what they really are?
>>>Because they don't CARE ABOUT details or FACTS about you. Not real ones anyway.
