Controllers are often triggered to rage when a target shows signs of apparent autonomy or confidence, or even calmness, joy, or hope.
Feeling like they have control over a target is tantamount to their feelings of having control of their own life, so a target behaving as if they are not afraid of the controller, as if they see the controller as a peer instead of an authority, or as if they are not living their daily lives according to the controller's wishes, can cause the controller to panic. Standing up for one's self to their disrespect or unfair, unkind treatment will almost certainly trigger anger or panic-rage in a person with Control and domination issues. Especially if one is already seen by the Controller as a "target". Nevertheless, not standing up to them, or remaining within their reach of control, often causes serious depression and anxiety issues, and can lead to serious problems for the targeted person. Finding one or more genuine allies (who don't condescend, manipulate or bully) can help tremendously with the process of healing one's boundaries so one is more able to stand up effectively or leave the situation. (If the only genuine ally one can find is a paid therapist, or someone on a recovery forum, then so be it.)
Feeling like they have control over a target is tantamount to their feelings of having control of their own life, so a target behaving as if they are not afraid of the controller, as if they see the controller as a peer instead of an authority, or as if they are not living their daily lives according to the controller's wishes, can cause the controller to panic. Standing up for one's self to their disrespect or unfair, unkind treatment will almost certainly trigger anger or panic-rage in a person with Control and domination issues. Especially if one is already seen by the Controller as a "target". Nevertheless, not standing up to them, or remaining within their reach of control, often causes serious depression and anxiety issues, and can lead to serious problems for the targeted person. Finding one or more genuine allies (who don't condescend, manipulate or bully) can help tremendously with the process of healing one's boundaries so one is more able to stand up effectively or leave the situation. (If the only genuine ally one can find is a paid therapist, or someone on a recovery forum, then so be it.)
