Little Kids On Comment Threads

It seems impossible now to find a comment thread about anything that does not jump very quickly off topic and straight to Monkey jumping and hooting. Find me an article or blogpost where the comment thread doesn't quickly disintegrate into name-calling, and proclaiming inferiority of the "other guys" and SUPREMACY of "Our Team", especially in anything remotely political. I even find original posts, one after the other, never mind comment threads, proclaiming intellectual supremacy of "Our Team". Sorry kids, but it is actually a practice of the emotionally insecure and developmentally delayed to abandon an actual topic and attack the person or people talking/writing, and to proclaim supremacy of one's own group. You should have learned that before graduating Middle School. Seriously. (and, no, this post doesn't count as "attacking the person writing". If you can't figure out why, go on Lumosity.com, they can help you.)
Anyone who is actually intelligent will discuss the actual topic in a polite and respectful manner from beginning of discussion to end of discussion. And if one begins to feel "heated" and defensive, one makes it a purposeful point to calm down, and redirect his or her energy. This you should have learned how to do before graduating High School.
Comment threads or posts trying to "bash" the entire body of a political party is, quite simply, a symptom of Narcissism disorder, and is clearly bullying, arrogance, elitism, and whining, whatever the disorder. If you are an adult, and you wish to participate in an adult discussion, you do not personally insult, attack, slander, or otherwise try to injure a person whom you don't agree with. Unless you are ITCHING for a hostile encounter, like a rutting Big Horn trying to prove his dominance. If you're anti-war, why are you trying so hard to start one? Stick to the facts of the subject, and learn about solution seeking. Watch Star Trek to learn some pointers. We already have enough grunting monkeys to fill a planet.
GUESS WHAT? The Left and the Right in the USA, and all the immigrants, and the "gun toting bible clutching rednecks" and the "man hating fems" and the "idiot misogynist pigs" and the "baby killing left" are ALL PEOPLE. And the name calling BELONGS IN ANOTHER DECADE. Really, try and grow into that gigantic IQ of yours, what did that researcher guy say was a "high IQ"? (that one really was pretty funny).
Yeah, so~ grow up and learn to figure things out and discuss without frothing at the mouth and trying to verbally destroy people, which means you are NOT PAYING ATTENTION TO THE SUBJECT ANYMORE, or LOSE your freedom and your country.

4 Types Of Bullies; You Know One, Or Are One

Or Both.
Humans have bully tendencies, unless they don't, or unless they learn not to as kids. It's just the way we are built as a species, very close to Chimpanzees. We live in groups, societies, and we get our needs and wants met by either working for them for ourselves, receiving them as gifts, stealing them from others, or bullying others. Some humans do all 4. Most humans do a little of more than one, at least. Hardly anyone only does the first one, unless they live alone on a deserted island or mountain wilderness. The first two are for people with the steel to actually live by the values they represent, and who get WHY they(ethics) are important.
Read on: 4 Types Of Bullies

Taxonomy, what it is, how it's done

Kingdom Phylum Class Order Family Genus Species

This is how organisms are named and catalogued. Here is a place that explains it well, without pontification or confusion, just straightforward information:
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Top 50 Photography Sites

Here is a list of Top 50 Photography Sites compiled by Pixiq.

My favorites are 20, 21, and 35 <---(note to self)

BE A MAN

Paul Whyte comes from a long line of Highland Scots who were merchant sea men and engineers. A successful chemist from Sydney, he is now an advisor with the Australian Human Rights Commission. Paul founded Sydney Men's Network in 1988.

Here is a sample of his research and writing, :  

"To understand how men are coerced into our gender roles and blocked from our rational humanity, we can look at the developmental stages in men's conditioning.

Birth - Gender conditioning begins at birth. Studies with babies show that little boys get less attention than little girls, with the boys more often being held so they are pointed away from the person they are with. Many men don't know what to do if they get someone's complete attention. The feeling of isolation can often be traced to this early training.

Weaning - After weaning, boys are trained to be little men - not to cry, but to go off and handle things alone. When a boy's ability to feel or express feelings is interfered with not only is his understanding of himself taken away but also his ability to understand and empathize with others.

Primary School - The great lie in the area of gender is that it is better to be male than female. Little boys have to prove that they are better than others as a matter of survival. At the start of school, boys find themselves in a `beat or be beaten' culture where little boys are beaten up until they can beat others up. Boys are beaten up for not being `male' enough. The two categories of not-male-enough are: girls, and "sissies" ("mummies boys", "poofters", "sickoes etc. The names vary with every place and culture, but you'll hear the current version in every school playground at every break. Girls are hated and abused at this stage with names like "girls germs."

The anti-homosexual or wimp abuse in society limits the kind of boy you can be. Boys are abused and abused and abused until anything resembling qualities associated with girls, "poofters" "wimps", etc. is hidden. These include the qualities needed for an easy emotional life and for interaction with other human beings. It is a choice that every male makes to survive the culture. Later on, anytime a man leaves the traditional conditioned male role he is subject to anti-gay abuse irrespective of his sexual preference or he is attacked for being a wimp. It is not surprising that men feel their lives are threatened if their manhood is called into question, since it was fear of death that conditioned this version of manhood in the first place. The men's movement is often labelled as "queer", "strange", etc. due to its questioning of the male role. Most people still only see males as the stereotype and if they are not the stereotype "they must be personally flawed in some way".

High School Sexual Conditioning - After having being isolated first from girls, in high school it is no longer permitted for boys to be close to other boys. It is it is at this stage that sexual conditioning begins. Adolescent boys are supposed to "get laid" to prove their manhood. A boy's sexuality is supposed to be: compulsive, impersonal, objectifying, coercive, active, driven to orgasm (his), proving his manhood, and with a female. If you look at what these constitute if taken together- legally, emotionally, and psychologically - it's rape. Not every man displays all of these behaviours. Yet this is the dominant mainstream model of male sexuality in which women have been conditioned to act out the matching role. Either you don't have enough of this men's sexual conditioning and you must be a "poof", or you have too much and you're a rapist and a monster. It's little wonder that men are confused about their sexuality. To work against rape is to work primarily against ordinary sexual conditioning , not some kind of unusual aberration. All men have some of the pieces of this sexual conditioning. Rapists are ordinary men with more ordinary men's conditioning than usual. Facing that society is to blame not any man is at the hart of men's work in this area. Responsibility for recovering is the personal responsibility of every man.

Working and Fighting - On leaving school most men go through the hardest and loneliest time of their lives. You have be consumed by work to "be a man". The beat-or-be-beaten culture of boys becomes kill-or-be-killed, dog- eat-dog. After leaving school men just work. Life is about work. All the priorities in a man's life are distorted so that work comes first. "You're a man because of your work." Health, relationships, well-being all come second. The conditioning feels like you have to work like this in order to survive. The way society is organised fits this feeling exactly. It can be very difficult for men to really rest.

Young men are the "group of choice" taken into the military. The male conditioning to "kill or be killed" is completed by the brutality of the basic training of new recruits. It is not surprising that military training recruitment ads have stated such things as "the army will make a man of you".

For at least some of the time most men at this age (18 to 25) would give everything that they had if someone would just pretend to like them which would allow them to "go on" a bit longer. This is the time of the highest death rates from accidents, suicide, drugs, fights, wars etc. Men at this age get the heaviest dose of abuse and isolation. The pressure is immense on them to fit into the oppressive mold, conform and go numb, and work.

At the same time, all men are subject to the threat of being bashed to death for being Gay-like. Two heterosexual men can get killed for holding hands in some streets. Gay bashing happens to any male that does not appear to fit into the stereotype of how men are supposed to be.

Retiring - When the role as "work objects" is over many men are just "disposed of". Many men either seize up or drop dead soon after retiring. The tensions of a life time all catch up. For the survivors, life often has no meaning and little real contact with others. At a time when the richest life experience and wisdom is available to others old men are seen as less than men as they are no longer available to work or fight. "

>>>(My thoughts): Paul is right on, IMHO, having done similar research and observations myself, without the benefit of the actual male POV. I had to do a lot of polling and objective listening, which is an ongoing process since gender conditioning is so pervasive, deep, and consuming in human culture. (It's difficult to study because we are humans.) So I was extremely pleased to find Paul's work, a bit of confirmation of my findings from the other side of the globe, and from the other side of the aisle. Here's to Mr. Whyte, I raise my glass! Aon ghlainne, chan fheàirrde ’s cha mhiste ;)

Lisa Parry: Gender Conditioning

Lisa Parry: Gender Conditioning: Something wonderful happened yesterday. One of my oldest friends had a baby - a little girl. Her sister was, rather brilliantly, tweeting fr...

The Tilted Kilt and other "Breastaurants"

     An Associated Press article recently published announced that restaurants like Hooters and The Tilted Kilt are experiencing a mini-boom. These eateries employ attractive, mostly younger women, dressed in various levels of revealing outfits as a focal point of their atmosphere. Casinos have been doing the same for years; "Cocktail waitresses" are required to wear company-provided outfits, which for female employees can be even as scant as a G-string in some establishments, even if their male coworkers are fully clothed and covered up.
     The conflicts about these places seem to be about general morality, and who is offended, or who is not offended, who likes it, what other people should or should not think about it. But what it really boils down to is a much more poignant issue: How does your significant other feel about being brought there, or about you going there, and does it make him or her feel anxious, inadequate, or put up for comparison? Does it make him or her uncomfortable for any reason at all, including women, or humans in general, being paid for showing body parts? Whatever the reason, it's their reason, and their feelings, and that's the point.
     The fact is, there are many more businesses like these that employ and parade the bodies of attractive females. Any man who cares for and respects his wife or girlfriend would obviously care about how she would feel being dragged into such an atmosphere, and about him going there without her. Period. That's the long and the short of it; no respect or care for her, then drag and gawk away! But don't expect her to stay with you if she has a shred of self-respect.
     It's not about whether it's "okay because society accepts it", it's about the actual personal people in our lives.
     If you are having a hard time wrapping your brain around this, and you are male, just use that great gift of imagination you have: If every single one of those establishments suddenly turned into the exact same places with young, attractive, male waitstaff, dressed in equally revealing, body-enhancing outfits, just how easy and comfy would you be when your wife or girlfriend, or even sisters or buddies, insisted on going there "JUST FOR THE WINGS"? Seriously~ the issue is about acting as if adults were adults, with a thing called consideration, and actual real-life care for the people who we claim to give a Hoot about. If she enjoys going, for real, (not just to please you because you are a needy, moody child who has tantrums when he doesn't get his own way, or insults and degrades people for not going along with you), then by all means, go, have a great time. But remember, no whinesies when it's time for everyone, including you, to go check out the traveling "All Male Revue" show on Saturday Night...!!!
Have a blast, Cowboy!

(Personally I don't like my food that close to uncovered stranger-human body parts, regardless of gender. No offense to the waitstaff, but everyone carries E Coli, call me cautious... ;)
    

Triggers; Control

      If you feel like every time you finally start to heal, have a moment of happiness, or feel like peace is coming to your heart again, that something happens to knock you back down~ it might actually be real. But not necessarily random.
      Human beings are master observers, whether we are aware of it or not. We notice the most subtle change in body language, and others notice these subtle changes in us. If you have a controller in your life, or more than one (which is the usual case), they are often even more astute than the average person at reading body language cues, noticing the slightest changes. They may have learned this skill out of self-preservation, or they may have honed it because they enjoy predation, or possibly just because manipulation is a habit within their families. Whatever the reason, the controller is often very much attuned to the smallest changes in others, especially their targets.
     A controller's target is anyone they want to have power over. The reasons can range widely. Possessiveness, wanting to be their target's sole focus of attention, is common. Wanting power over the target's resources is also common. Sometimes envy of another person's being, their personality, their happiness, their light, is the reason a controller seeks to push them down, down below them.
     In order to stay in power over another person, a controller keeps a lid on the emotional growth and strength of their target. They are actually hyper-vigilant of their target's body language and physiological changes. Laughter and outward displays of happiness are obvious to most of us, but to a controller, much more subtle changes are noticed. Extremely subtle. Such as the glow on your cheeks after a happy time, or an air of liberation around you when you feel like you are about to accomplish something. The look of focus in your eyes or on your face when you notice something that catches your interest or inspires you; the relaxed look of peace after a nice time; the feeling of relief when you realize that you have more money in the bank than you expected. The optimistic glint in your eye when you are planning a project that excites you. Even when these signs are miniscule, they will probably notice them. And those signs are their hair-triggers to sabotage.
     It can be hard for a person who is not a controller to wrap their mind around this kind of focus on another person, especially for these reasons. But this controller person's focus in life is not the same as a healthier person; the control IS how they conduct their lives. It's how they get through their day. For many, it has become such a way of life that it is mostly subconscious and automatic, they don't even need to think about it to carry out their manipulation; it's reactive.
     An example of this subtle sabotage: It's a beautiful night. You have been trying to get yourself to go walking more often, and since it's so gorgeous out, you decide to get your shoes on and go. Happy with yourself, and happy about the weather, your face shows a warm glow as you mention what you are about to do, and ask if anyone wants to join you. The response you get is not mutual appreciation for the lovely day, or shared enthusiasm for enjoying it on a walk; instead you get a cold, annoyed, or indifferent shrug, or a complaint about something that needs to be done or how hard their day was. You may also be told that they are much too busy to do something as leisurely as a walk. These responses might occasionally come from a non-controller, but without a feeling of heaviness; usually a refusal would be something more like "Oh I'd love to, but I'm in the middle of this thing I'm doing, go ahead, have a nice walk!" or "I can't go with you, I hurt my foot today, but go ahead!" or "I'd like to but I'm waiting for so and so to come over. Maybe later?" The difference is the air of genuine respect and politeness, as opposed to an implication of annoyance or some other negative feeling. The controller wants to dull the edge of your jubilant mood.
     It may help to keep in mind that the controller's behavior is not about you, it's simply about their own need and desire to have power over their environment, which includes you.
    
     

Puzzle Me This, Charlie Brown:

So... psychology professionals overwhelmingly state that most people who have Narcissistic Personality Disorder are men. The last number I read was 75% of Narcs are male. Then... why is it that if you look for studies and literature on Narc. Fathers, you find vague references to Narc. Parents, but reams of information about Narc. Mothers? They even have names for the different personality profiles.
Hmmm... 75% of Narcs are males... but we don't like to write about the damage they inflict on their kids, only the damage they inflict on their partners... but we really enjoy focusing on the damage that Narc. Mothers inflict on their kids...  But only 25% of Narcs are female, and as stated in psych. literature only 1% of the population has NPD.
So... How come the numbers don't make sense, Charlie Brown?

Good Boy, Good Man; Good Girl, Good Woman

"Be a good boy, do your chores, don't talk back, get your homework done, do your best at your sport, or your music, or your science project."

Unfortunately, this common mantra of instruction for "being a good boy" does not include how to interact with others, how to think critically, or why either one is important. Nor does it include how to deal with others who have no idea how to interact with others.
       Without being taught the hows and whys of interaction, respect, courtesy, and healthy boundaries, children can easily get stuck in a belief that says "I am good if I get all my work done, and if I don't talk back to whoever I perceive as an authority figure" and that's the end of it. Without learning how and why to interact with others in a truly respectful manner, a child will go straight to adulthood without ever passing through to maturation.
      This simplistic belief "system" often results in broken and tumultuous relationships, chaotic lifestyles, and even habitual criminal behavior. The chaos is exponential when the person is surrounded by others who have this limited belief issue; everyone in their life is always trying to prove their innocence and worth by "being a good man" or "being a good woman", based on the very small template they learned as children. And they often do this by comparison against others, using these same limited "rules", which results in a judgmental, hostile environment.
      If a child is lucky enough to have a role model who teaches them critical thinking by example, then the child may help themselves mature further than these limited instructions, even if there were no role models otherwise. But without the ability to teach one's self through objective observation and strength to truly learn from failure, the child will likely remain at the age where he or she felt that they "arrived" at an understanding of what it means to be a "good person." There may be no more learning for that person, barring catastrophe that turns their world upside down, giving them cause to stop and look around. And even then, many simply bounce back like an elastic band to their childhood belief system.
      Being a "good man" or "good woman" extends far beyond one's own achievements, and one's ability to avoid consequence. It extends far beyond getting approval from certain people, far beyond being accepted into a community or group. It is a learning process that, if taken seriously, can fill one's entire day every day of their lives, and still go on.

Abusive Relationship Help: 13 Steps To A Peaceful Home

 

Our wounds run deep and in the case of the narcissistic personality, there is a deep denial as well.  There is a denial that says “I can’t possibly be this unhappy, or in this much pain.  It has to be her/his fault.  She/he is making me feel this way.”

http://www.narcissismfree.com/art-narcissistic-bubble.php

Can narcissism be cured?

"I think the problem we have here is that most people seeking the change are the victims of narcissistic abuse, not the narcissists themselves. The victims entertain fantasies of approaching the narcissist and saying "honey, I think you might have a problem, or you may have narcissistic personality disorder, and I need you to get some help for this little problem or I'm going to leave."

The fantasy is that the narcissist will say "yes, honey, you are absolutely right, I've always felt something was deeply wrong with me and I want to change. I will schedule an appointment with the therapist this week."

HA! Not likely, although I'm sure some readers have heard a similar story in the narcissist's attempt to gain control of the relationship.

The more likely reaction will be the wrath of narcissistic rage being unleashed upon you. You have just threatened his security, which is the illusion he lives in. You are likely to be the subject of attack on just why it is that YOU are the one with the problem and he will deliver his wrath in such a way you begin to believe it."

http://www.narcissismfree.com/cure-for-narcissism.php

More Narcissism Understood: M. Evans

"Narcissism is a grave condition of insecurity and desperately feeling unloved and unacceptable. An individual with Narcissistic Personality Disorder inherently believes they are ‘damaged goods’ and fears other individuals will discover the truth: that they feel powerless. Thus the narcissist invests a great deal of energy into ‘gaining the upper hand’, to hide feeling vulnerable, insecure and broken. When they are getting what they want, the charm is flowing and plentiful. When the charm doesn’t work the intimidation begins. Narcissism is categorised as an unhealthy level of self-absorption and a lack of empathy regarding how their insecure, aggressive and damaging behaviour affects the world around them.
Sadly, when many women realise that the narcissist is insecure and isn’t reassured, she’ll try harder to love him. Additionally he’ll blame his behaviour on something that you are or aren’t doing, and as women we may try to ‘do it better’ or ‘get it right’. Your increased efforts to love him and make him happy only lines you up for more abuse. "

http://www.melanietoniaevans.com/articles/narcissism-understood.htm

>>>(From me:)  The person who has Narcissism pretty much got stuck at a childhood stage when something happened to him or her, so this personality issue is not difficult to understand if one can remember what a lot of children are like, before they develop the ability to empathize with other people. Before they learn to include others in their thoughts, actions, and plans. Before they learn to think about HOW they are reacting. Before they learn about how to treat others, and WHY, and before they learn that other people, regardless of their race or gender, are just as real and important as themselves. Remember the little boys on the local baseball team? Remember how they were trying to be "men", by trying to act tough and trying to boss people around? Including adults, like their mothers, seeing how far they could go? Confusing self-confidence with superiority. And remember that their displays of frustration and anger were still very childlike, and they would react in a mean, tantrum way if they didn't get what they wanted? Remember how they would have one kid as a friend one day, and ditch that kid the next day, because a "tougher" kid wanted to play? And made up excuses for their inconsiderate and self-centered behavior, trying to justify it? Remember how they would break the rules, or do something mean, and believe that saying "I'm sorry" or giving a present actually erased the misdeed, and fixed all the damage they caused, so they didn't learn not to do it again, or why? Remember how, when they were caught doing something wrong, they would try to shrug off accountability by accusing someone else of doing something wrong too? ("Jimmy, you hit your brother, you are grounded." "Yeah but he hit me last week!" "Yes, and he was grounded for it." "It's not fair!" "How is that not fair?" "Because, he was bothering me, that's why I hit him!"...) That's the age that the narcissist is stuck. They are stuck in the snapshot of that age. The trauma could have been anything, something you wouldn't even consider.
People can and do grow out of that stage, naturally, in a healthy environment, with supportive adults. But take those factors away; healthy environment, supportive adults; and you get a kid who has to raise himself. If a person with this issue seeks help for it, and gets the right help, they can recover. The biggest obstacle is the fact that the person will probably kick and scream at the thought of "getting help", or of facing that there is anything "wrong" with them at all. Children do not feel immature, or developmentally halted. They feel as if they are at the pinnacle of maturity, no matter what age they are at. And so does a person who is stuck in childhood. The good news for an adult narcissist is that he is not a child, and so his maturity would go much, much faster, since he has actually lived through years of life. He has a wealth of experience to draw from. It's his getting to the help that is the problem, and being able to face it.
>>>If he can't, then he will remain at that age for the rest of his life, tragically. He will remain at an age where he does not find joy in supporting others, where he does not want to "sit down and watch" his sister play baseball, but wants her to go away so he can have the spotlight and have everyone only clap for him; where he believes that he is superior, and he belongs to the group that is the most superior and who have authority over others; where he believes that all the presents should be for him, and all the pity, and all the applause, and all the understanding and sympathy, and therefore does not have any for anyone else; where he gets bored listening to someone else's stories and opinions very quickly, and will always try to bring the conversation back to his own point of view, and if he can't he will sulk, whine, attack, cause a distraction, or leave; where he becomes hurt or angry if everything he does is not applauded by people he ignores and dismisses; where he can not put down his own troubles, OR accomplishments, in order to support someone else for any length of time; where he really believes that his is better than others, or more put-upon than others, or smarter than others, or has more potential than others, has more important things to do than others, or suffers more than others, and therefore deserves special treatment, and that they do not. 
>>>If he can, then he can recover.

Narcissism Understood M. Evans

This I have witnessed way too many times in the Northeast, not just toward me:

"Male narcissists are misogynists. They desperately seek women yet inwardly despise them. These men are totally turned on by extreme sexuality yet are perversely disgusted by attractive female attributes, believing women are promiscuous, sexually manipulative and attention seeking. The male narcissist will often play out a deep subconscious ‘mother-revenge’ by running his female partner into the ground. He will destroy her self-esteem, femininity and sexuality piece by piece."

http://www.melanietoniaevans.com/articles/narcissism-understood.htm

The stronger the spirit, the less tempted the mind, the less wavering the footsteps, the less hesitant the hand, the less glaring the eyes, the less vicious the mouth, the less mean the laughter, the fuller the heart.

Control Behavior

There are a lot of human beings who habitually try to control others. A LOT of them. The reasons vary, but often come back to trying to make others fulfill their needs and desires, including simply a feeling of being in control. These people are all around us, in all walks of life, in all socio-economic and political groups, in every neighborhood, in nearly all families. Some try to control a lot, some a little, but it is all a means to an end, their end.
People who seek a lot of control and who have anger and resentment issues, and also want to remain being seen as "innocent", "laid back", "cool", often use Passive Aggressive behavior. Taking a jab at another person in a sideways kind of way, with the intent of getting away with it. Of appearing guilt free, or as the real victim. These were the kids who walk by the neighbor's dog too close, in order to get its attention and make him bark, but look straight ahead whistling while doing it. They are the wife who "forgets" that she made plans with her girlfriend on Friday night, and the husband who "forgets" that he said he was going to be around all day on Saturday. The mother who makes her son's least favorite sandwich for school lunch, and the father who fixes the car while his daughter isn't home, after she asked him to teach her how. The "friend" who never notices anything you accomplish, or acts indifferent toward anything creative you do.
One of the hardest things to believe about Controllers is how they go about gaining control over another; they LEARN. Step by step, inch by inch, through observation, trial and error, exactly what makes another person tick. That is why they are so effective, and so damaging. The mother who invalidates her daughter when she begins to show enthusiasm about astronomy, but practically applauds when her daughter expresses an interest in healthcare. They are very specific, and very sly. If this mother catches the tiniest twinkle in the eye of her daughter when there is anything about astronomy within 5 miles, she will shut her down, and do it so covertly that all the daughter thinks is happening is that she simply can't get her astronomy interest off the ground, to create anything practical out of it. Anyone can do this to anyone else; children frequently master the art of control over their own parents.
If you would like to learn more about Passive Aggressive behavior, I recommend clicking here:

 http://divorcesupport.about.com/od/abusiverelationships/a/pa_anger.htm

Awake

Top 50 Idiot Sexist Political Quotes

The thing that freaks me out the most about this list is the fact that I actually used to believe that human beings who had grown to adulthood did not do this anymore. Interesting how everyone just sweeps it under the rug, like "it's just the way things are". Really? Let's see what happens if that amount of racial slurring spewed out of these mouths and out of their keyboards. What would happen then? And how exactly did people learn so well to control THAT, but seem to have a terribly hard time controlling this vomit? Oh... right... that would be MONKEY GROUP BEHAVIOR. Only stop doing something bad if I'm gonna get in TROUBLE FOR IT. And only if that trouble doesn't come with a reward attached to balance it out. FEAR OF CONSEQUENCES, MONKEYS. If it is horribly wrong to make racist references because it's disparaging... then... wha??? Huh?? What do you mean, Marianne? Women are SUPPOSED to be treated like shit! It's the way of the world!!! We can't help it!!! We're not perfect! Whaaaaaaaaaaaa!!!!! Where's my BINKY???!!! Oh, but wait let me STRAIGHTEN MY TIE SO I CAN RUN THE WORLD.

 http://thestir.cafemom.com/in_the_news/110242/Top_50_Most_Sexist_Quotes

 To be sure, there are people on this list who are entertainment personalities, who create stir on purpose. THEY are "allowed" to spew stupid crap, just like any other entertainer. The people on this list who HOLD OFFICE ARE RESPONSIBLE for the crap they spew, COMPLETELY. They are not creating "art" or providing a topic of conversation or stir. They are ELECTED OFFICIALS. The difference is absolutely HUGE.